30 signs he likes you, according to dating experts

If you can always count on him to comment on your fire selfies and hilarious reels, clinical sexologist and psychotherapist Kristie Overstreet, says this is a pretty good sign he’s feelin’ more than friendship.

Is he the first person you call when you get bad news, have a tough day, or get into a huge fight with your roommate? And is he responsive to that? Like, does he tell you to come over, make you a cup of tea, and wrap you in a blanket when you’re sad? Yeah, that dude likes you.

It might seem simple, but marriage and family therapist Payal Patel says eye contact is vital to non-verbal communication. “When someone looks you directly in the eye when you’re talking to them, it shows they are present and listening to you,” she explains. “It also builds a form of intimacy between two people.”

Has he asked you to be his plus-one at a wedding recently? Invited you to his birthday party? Asked you to join him at work dinner? Girl, HE LIKES YOU!

We’re not talking about snooping, stonewalling, or other red flag behaviour here. But Starwood says a little jealousy if another guy flirts with you or tries to ~move in~ on you shows “he wants you all to himself”. Also, hi, if he communicates his feelings maturely, that’s another *chef's kiss* sign he’s worthy of your love.

Whether it’s a normal day or you have something big going on (like a test or presentation at work), Dr. Overstreet says if he consistently reaches out, it not only means he’s thinking about you now, but he’s taking note of your future mood/response to life events.

If you happen to hear from a friend of a friend that the guy you’re crushing on brought you up in the guys’ group chat the other day, (and/or can’t shut up about you anywhere, all the time) chances are pretty good he’s crushing back.

Bonus points if it’s without you asking. Boodram says “whether it’s medicine for a stuffy nose or a walk around the park to clear your head after a stressful day”, stepping up to care for you shows his feelings are deeper than surface level.

Cue the rom-com vibes. Love and relationship coach, Dr. Lurve says him clearly going out of his way to make you giggle is a classic ‘he likes you’ sign. If he’s not afraid to be silly for the sake of your smile, there’s probably more than friendship under his jokes.

It’s easy to be sweet to someone during good times, but Dr. Lurve says if he supports you during hard times, it shows his interest in a deeper bond. “Something you want in your corner is a partner who will stick up for you no matter what,” she explains. “Whether you become part of a confrontational situation with him or someone says something to him about you when you’re not around, if he stands up for you, it shows his loyalty to you and your connection.”

Putting an effort into grooming himself points to a desire to impress you. This could be dressing up, styling his hair, wearing cologne, etc. That doesn’t mean he’s got to wear a tux every time you’re together, but if he clearly spent some time primping before casual hangs, he’s probably feeling something more than friendship

If he asks questions that skip past the usual small talk and help you engage on a deeper level, Tang says that shows he’s not only a good listener but also actually curious about you. Instead of the typical ‘How was your day?’ or ‘What do you do for a living?’, he might ask what you’re passionate about or where your dream vacation spot is.

Literally every expert agrees, if he’s vulnerable around you, it means he feels comfortable in your bond. Pay attention if he’s willing to talk about personal issues or openly shares his emotions (even the difficult ones) with you, as it’s a sign he trusts you and your relationship.

When you date someone, you’re also kind of dating their friends. Starwood says if he’s willing to go to parties, dinners, and/or nights out with you and your pals, it’s probably a sign he’s more invested than a casual hook-up.

According to an ancient saying (and by ‘ancient saying’ I, of course, mean a tweet I saw recently), all straight men must, at some point, choose between making fun of astrology and getting laid. This also goes for any other ‘basic’ hobby or interest that women are often unfairly mocked for enjoying. (See: reality TV, anything pumpkin flavoured, delicious cocktails, etc.)

Obviously any dude who makes fun of you for liking the (very normal and likeable) things you like is probably kind of a jerk you shouldn’t waste your time on anyway. But one who actively expresses interest in the kinds of things you know his worst, most guy’s-guy friends would mock him for is probably at least a little into you (and also a keeper, just sayin’).

First of all, boundaries are crucial in any relationship. But if you’ve been clear about not kissing on the first date or not having sex and he completely honours that, it means he cares for you and respects you.

You don’t need us to tell you this, but if you’re getting goodnight and good morning texts, things are getting pretty serious — or at least heading that way fast. If you two are exchanging daily (and/or nightly) greetings, you’ve reached a new tier of communication, one in which texting isn’t just something you do for fun or to make plans, but because his day literally wouldn’t be complete without talking to you. Cute!

Body language is, like, everything when it comes to dating. So if your guy imitates your gestures or speech patterns, then that’s a subconscious sign that he’s interested in you, says sexual health and wellness expert Tatyannah King. “He wants to gain mutual trust and create a connection.”