Fetish dating apps 2024 – 10 of the best BDSM kink and sex-positive dating apps

Feeld is the most famous of all the kink apps (so much so that it’s practically mainstream now). It’s all about celebrating ethical non-monogamy, and alongside allowing you to explore polyamory in all of its forms, it’s also a sex positive app that creates a safe space for people to talk about their turn-ons and kinks.

Feeld is really inclusive to the queer community, giving you the choice of lots of different gender and sexuality options.

Feeld has a free-to-use basic level but if you love it there’s also the opportunity to invest in premium options from £12 per month.

Not just for BDSM and kink, #open was designed with the polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous community in mind. This is evidenced by its choice of profiles: solo, partnered, or double. The first two are pretty self-explanatory, but a double profile is one that enables you to switch between solo and partnered, with the ability to edit at any time. So you can swipe with or without your primary partner.

#open is really open (wink, wink) to people with fetishes, and you can list any kinks you have on your profile. And there’s the option to use a nickname if you want some anonymity – or you can link your social media accounts if you don’t. Plus, the app has a strict no-NSFW image policy, so there’s no risk of any nasty surprises in your DMs.

But the kicker with #open is – you guessed it – its hashtags. Users can answer prompts, with their chosen responses (there’s a specific set of phrases) being turned into hashtags that others can then search through – a great way to find like-minded people.

Fetlife is the OG kink social networking site. Users can discuss their fetishes, explore new ones, and get to know other kink enthusiasts. The thing is, with just over three million users, the whole kink community and then some has a Fetlife profile. This means you’ll likely come across a lot of people with very different tastes and lifestyles to you, so go in with an open mind.

But equally, know your boundaries before you step in. There are a lot of people on Fet and if you’re submissive leaning, beware of “doms” who steam in heavy and hot making demands. Fetish and kink is all about trust, communication and respect and no one should ever be pushing you right off the bat.

List your interests, your likes and dislikes, and explore the community. This app is great for finding kink friends in your area and finding events like munches – sex-positive meet ups – to go to locally.

Okay, for the uninitiated this might seem incredibly wild or painfully boring, but trust us when we say this really is some people’s jam. Obedience is a “BDSM habit tracker” which allows dominant and submissive partners to connect and keep track of rules, punishments, and rewards.

It’s made for established BDSM couples, with the goal of enhancing their BDSM dynamic outside of the app – so it’s only something you should try if you’ve discussed it with your partner and are both freely consenting.

You can add tasks, rewards, and punishments, and make them as wholesome or filthy as your hearts desire. A cute and kinky way to check in with each other, it’s less of a dating app and more of a sex-positive relationship building tool. It’s free to use, but you can buy a Pro subscription starting at £5.50 for a month.

Fantasy Match is an app for ethical non-monogamy, and it’s a safe space to explore kink and fetish too, with over 500 kinks and fantasies available to search for in the app.

But it’s more than just dating – you can also find a resource library, complete with icebreakers and conversation topics, as well as features that allow you to learn about sexuality and sexual cultures around the world.

It’s free to use, but you can buy a membership – it’s not the cheapest on the market, though, starting at £4 per week.

Whether you’re after sexy chat, hook ups, or actual dates, Fuck.com (which, yes, is technically a website) is free and can put you in touch with other like-minded people. You can specify what you’re into – tattoos, doggy, and PVC are particularly popular – and where you live, and get matched with others who dig your sexual vibe.

The site also has a forum where users can talk about everything from the current dating scene and break-ups to sex tips, positions, and fantasies. Fuck.com also boasts the aptly named Fuck Magazine, where experts share tips on swinging, dick pics, pegging, and so much more. You can even find sex-positive events near you.

Fetish.com is an online community that puts you in touch with other fetishists and kinksters. If you’re curious about trying out something new, or you’re super into a specific fetish, you’ll find someone here who gets it.

Like Fuck.com, this site also has a forum for BDSM and kink chats, as well as info about BDSM archetypes, a comprehensive list of kinks and fetishes, and expert articles with kinky tips and advice.

Fetish.com also has its own BDSM personality test – are you a sub, a dom, a switch? – and a BDSM training school.

New to the FET lifestyle or an experienced kinkster? No problem, FET is a safe place to learn and explore BDSM and fetish. Whatever your kink or fetish, the community aims to support and encourage users to share and learn from each other. In fact, the app describes itself as “kinky and unapologetically open”.

As well as being able to browse specific users’ profiles and DM them (and even share photos), FET offers a newsfeed, search function, and a 24/7 live chat, so there’s always someone to discuss your wildest fantasies with. There’s also the option to verify your profile for total peace of mind.

The app is free, but, if you love it, you can choose a premium membership from just £8.50 a month.