We all know Chappell Roan’s kink is karma, and this week we learned fellow pop superstar Reneé Rapp’s is…ice? During the artist’s latest appearance onCall Her Daddy on Wednesday, Reneé had a one-word response when host Alex Cooper asked her to name her “weirdest kink”: ice. A brief yet hilarious moment of confusion ensued involving no fewer than four uses of the word “ice,” culminating in Reneé’s instantly iconic clarification, “...like, ice.”

If you, like Alex, were momentarily unclear on the link between ice and kink, allow us to fill you in on a little thing called temperature play—a form of erotic sensation play in which the elements of heat and cold are used to heighten the senses during sex. This may include use of hot or cold liquids, toys, lube, or even, yes, straight up ice.

While temperature play is often part of BDSM scenes, sexologist Shamyra Howard says it’s a fairly accessible and adaptable form of kink that’s easy to incorporate into your sex life, regardless of your preferred level of kinkiness. Basically, anyone who enjoys different types of feelings, textures, and sensations on their skin may find temperature play fun to experiment with, says sexologist Marla Renee Stewart, a sexpert for sex toy retailer Lovers.

Here are some ways to engage with temperature play in the bedroom:

  • Perform oral sex after taking a sip of cold water or warm tea
  • Lick ice cream off your partner’s bare chest
  • Chill a glass dildo in the fridge before inserting vaginally or anally
  • Let an ice cube melt on your or your partner’s nipples
  • Stroke your partner with a warming vibrator
  • Give a sensual massage with hot oil/wax from a body-safe candle
  • Warm or freeze a towel and place it on your/your partner’s neck
  • Use a warming or cooling lubricant
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Of course, while temperature play is relatively entry-level in the grand scheme of kink, there are some important health and safety tips to keep in mind. First things first, consent is always necessary before and during any sexual experience, especially when hot or cold temperatures are involved.

“Since temperature play is probably considered kinky for most folks, it’s always best to have a safe word that you and your partner share so they know they can revoke their consent at any given point in time,” says Stewart. Discuss boundaries, hard limits, wants, and safe words with a partner before you begin playing.

Another thing: Read up on any items you plan to play with before you begin playing. Check out the ingredients—especially for any massage oils or lubricants you plan on using—and learn how to use the product.

For example, if you’re interested in exploring wax play, “know that most of the candles you burn at home are not body-safe and will burn the skin,” says Howard. Make sure to purchase massage candles specific for sex.

With temperature play, you run the risk of burning yourself or your partner if things get a little too hot (and don’t forget that freeze burn is also a thing). So be mindful about the temperatures, products, and locations on the body you choose to play with.

Pro tip: Before testing out a product on your partner, try using it on yourself first. Although your body or skin might react differently than theirs, testing a product on your hand before going full-force on your partner’s body could clue you into what it would feel like.

All of which is to say, yes, ice is absolutely a kink—one you can easily incorporate into your own sex life if you want to take a page from Reneé’s book (which, don’t we all?).