22 of the best sex toys for couples, according to sex writers

There’s a lot going on during sex. You have to get the positioning right and hold yourself up, as well as focus on whether what you’re doing feels good for your partner.

So the last thing you want to think about is keeping a firm grip on a whopping great sex toy; which is why I’m a huge fan of finger vibrators.

This one from Dame slots over your digits like a ring, and sends five vibration speeds straight to their C-spot, without you feeling like you’ve strained your delicate little wrists.

The SONA 3 suction toy from LELO delivers some spine-tingling clitoral stimulation and has all our practical requirements ticked off: whisper-quiet and USB rechargeable.

Controlling it manually will offer you 12 different settings, but sync it up to the LELO app and you’ll unlock an extra two for even more pleasure.

Plus, it can be fully submerged in water — so light some candles and take a steamy dip together.

Another luxury toy brand, Lovense is a great choice for couples, especially if you’re looking to up the quality of a fledgling sex toy collection.

This app-controlled egg vibrator is one of Cosmo’s faves — just read our glowing review of it — and a brilliant long-distance sex toy for any couples looking to spice up their sex life together, even when they are physically apart.

Insert the egg for G-spot stimulation, while the tail provides rumbly vibrations against your clit. Then, play with the modes, patterns, views, and explore several ways of working the toy once you’re in the app. High tech sex!

People with vulvas have two holes, so we might as well make full use of them. If your partner particularly likes watching you squirm in pleasure (lucky you), you can hand them full control of this three-way toy, which sends vibes to your clit, G-spot, and backdoor.

Each of its three motors are independently controlled, so you can get the balance *juuust* right, and it even has a curved base so you can rock back and forth in whatever position you like — while practicing your hawk tuah skills, maybe!

It’s almost impossible not to live a busy life — and that can often come at the expense of our pleasure and spending quality time with our partners.

If you’re feeling disconnected from your lover — whether you live in different rooms, postcodes, or continents — Luxus is designed to bring you closer together.

Using the same technology as car sensors, its two parts (a clit vibrator and cock ring) increase in intensity as you draw closer together, to help you build up to a calamitous climax.

But, if you’re not able to be in the same place, you can also sync it up with the Luxus app to control each other’s pleasure pals from anywhere you like.

Shaped like a C, the We-Vibe Sync is intended for wear during penetrative sex to provide both G-spot and clitoral stimulation.

It can be controlled via a wireless remote for easy use during sex and, for long-distance couples, via an app on your phone — so you don’t have to resort to plain old manual mutual masturbation over FaceTime.

The rechargeable device is a sleek, comfortable couples toy that lets both partners enjoy vibrations and extra stimulation. It’s a bit on the pricier side but, as they say, you get what you pay for! And in this case, that’s customised blended Os — unreal.

Yeah, remote-control vibrators are great and all, but they’re just not as fun for the person holding the remote, are they?

That is, until Coco de Mer came along and had the genius idea of creating a toy that means the non-egg wearing partner can have just as much of a great night.

As well as controlling the 10 vibration modes on the egg as it sits against your G-spot, the remote can be used as a vibrator in its own right.

What you do with it is totally up to you — use it on your nipples, or double up on the partner wearing the egg to coax them towards a blended orgasm.

If you and your partner are looking for a luxury sex toy, LELO is *the* brand to choose from.

The TIANI™ couples vibrator provides double pleasure with one arm that vibrates inside you for internal stimulation and another that vibrates against your clit. The outer arm aligns with your partner’s shaft to create powerful pleasure for you both.

There are eight vibration settings to choose from, and LELO’s SenseMotion technology enables you to increase the intensity with the remote control by just a flick of the wrist — so you’ll never need to interrupt the moment.

Sometimes you just want a vibrator to add into sex for a little pizzazz. If you prefer to keep things simple, this sleek pebble vibrator from the Knude Society is small and skinny enough to slot between you during missionary.

Should you be more of a doggy girl, it’s also shaped to fit precisely into your hands, so you won’t have any problem balancing it in place as your partner takes you from behind.

It’s also pretty quiet, so you won’t give the game away to your neighbours or flatmates. Phew.

Never felt the feeling of having an appendage hang from your crotch? Instead of diving in at the deep end (literally) with a strapless strap-on, you might want to instead opt for the classic harness-held dildo.

This kit from Ann Summers comes with all the basics for banging a behind or lengthy lesbian sex. As well as a 4.5- inch silicone dildo (ideal if you’re not used to penetration, in either hole), it comes with three O-rings for when you’re ready to graduate to a bigger schlong.

We’ve heard it said that life is what you make of it — and we’d have a good go at arguing that sex toys are what you make of them, too.

You might be pleased to hear you don’t have to do much to get a lot of pleasure out of this Bellesa boy. On top of its main clit-pulsing function (which is great, btw), it also has a clit suction and precise vibrating handle — so you’ll never run out of ways to play.

Not only does it make a thumping good addition to penetrative sex, but it could also level up vulva-on-vulva action, if you can figure out how to rest that paddle against one person’s sweet spot while the other straddles one of its other sides.

If you’re not new to the couples sex toy game, you’ll likely have gone through some trial and error to find a sex toy — or a position — that doesn’t generate slip and some awkward fumbles.

Luckily, in 2014 an MIT engineer and a sexologist joined forces to create the world’s first ever crowdfunded sex toy — that’s entirely hands-free for this reason.

With two wings to wrap around the vulva, the Eva is Dame’s magnum opus, and provides three vibration intensities directly to the clitoris, without getting in the way of your lover’s member or fingers, or a dildo — oh, and the added hand cramp.

Getting tangled in sheets is sexy (kinda...), but getting tangled in vibrator wires is decidedly not.

Thankfully, we’ve come a long way since Hitachi’s magic wand was crowned a vibrator (rather than a neck massager) by housewives in the 1980s, and now the likes of Lovehoney make their very own wireless version of the iconic toy.

Duh, we’re all very excited that we don’t have to sit by a socket while having a wank — but mostly, we’re thrilled by the prospect of 20 punchy vibration modes and patterns, which can be applied to your clit, neck, nipples, shaft, or whatever erogenous zones you feel like providing deep vibes to.

Just don’t, ya know, actually put this one inside you — it’s for external use only.