10 Blow Job Sex Positions to Try Tonight
Because great oral isn’t just about technique—position matters too.
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Not all blow jobs are created equal—and position matters way more than you might think. Because sure, there’s the standard setup everyone pictures, but different blow job sex positions can completely change the experience for both the giver and the receiver. The right angle can mean deeper penetration, better control over pace, and—perhaps most importantly—a setup that doesn’t leave your jaw, neck, and entire body begging for mercy.
“Blow jobs are popular for good reason,” says author August McLaughlin, host of the Girl Boner podcast. “Many folks enjoy giving and receiving them for perks like intimate connection and intense, often orgasmic pleasure.”
And while blow jobs are often treated like they’re all about the receiver’s pleasure, let’s be clear: your experience matters too. The right position can make giving head feel less physically taxing and, in many cases, a whole lot more enjoyable. Some people prefer oral sex positions that offer more control, while others like setups that create space for hands, sex toys, or even a little grinding for mutual pleasure.
If giving oral hasn’t exactly been your favorite activity, experimenting with different blow job positions might change that. “Figure out what you most enjoy, and make sure you’re getting that,” says sexologist Suzannah Weiss, author of Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject.
So no, you don’t have to stick with whatever default position you’ve been doing since college. Below, 10 blow job sex positions that might seriously upgrade the experience for both of you.
The Seated 69
How to Do It: “One partner sits on a chair, bed, or sofa. The other partner turns upside down, placing their crotch in the seated person’s face for easy access, and their hands on the furniture for stability. Think of it like a 69-style, seated hug,” says McLaughlin.
Pros: “While this position takes some physical strength and balance, it can provide a sense of fun and novelty if you’re used to more basic, lying down sex positions. The mutual oral stimulation is a bonus,” she says.
Cons: This is, in fact, very tricky. A wide, sturdy chair with large armrests can help, but if you can't quite nail this one, totally fine to skip or move on to the next thing.
Switch It Up: Add bonus stimulation with a finger vibe.
Make It Hotter: Match each other’s rhythm—if they flick their tongue, you flick yours. If they slow down, you slow down.
The Throne
How to Do It: “Your partner sits in a chair with their legs a bit spread, and you kneel between their legs underneath the chair as if you’re worshipping them,” says Weiss.
Pros: Great for cock worship, a common kink wherein the worshipper is obsessed with and in awe of their partner’s penis—receiving it in every way and indulging in their cum, explains Weiss.
Cons: Not everyone is going to be into full-on cock worship. If so, this works as a plain old non-worshiping BJ, too.
Switch It Up: If you want an extra spectacular grand finale, get a penis stroker attachment that fits over a wand vibrator.
Make It Hotter: After you’ve done your cock-worshipping, hand your partner the wand and they can return the favor.
Sideways Oral
How to Do It: The Kivin Method is a sideways position for cunnilingus, but it can be a blow job position too, says Weiss. Have your partner sit or lie back on a bed. Kneel at your partner’s side (as opposed to head-on) and you’re good to go.
Pros: “This creates a slightly different angle and sensation since you're a bit higher up than you'd be if you were between your partner's legs. Your hands are also a bit freer to touch other parts of their body,” says Weiss.
Cons: Eye contact is a little limited in this position. If you need more, just use your hand for a few strokes so you can turn and look at your partner.
Switch It Up: Use your free hand to cup or play with their balls!
Make It Hotter: If you want to sit on a vibrator, go right ahead. Try a grinder-style toy.
The Sweet 16
How to Do It: Your partner lies down flat. Straddle your partner’s chest, facing their feet. Bend down to get them in your mouth for an upside-down BJ.
Pros: “The sweet 16 is an easy position that works well for anyone with anxiety around giving a blow job,” says sex and couples’ therapist Sara Sloan, owner of Austin Concierge Therapy. “With your back to your partner’s face, it blocks the view, preventing the receiver from seeing what the giver is doing.” This is especially helpful if you're shy about being watched.
Cons: No eye contact. Stay connected with your partner with some dirty talk, words of love, or sexy questions like “Do you like when I do this?”
Switch It Up: Slide your hips back toward your partner’s face if you’re craving some oral sex yourself (rimming works too).
Make It Hotter: “It allows you to have both hands free, which is especially helpful for anyone working with a larger penis,” she says. Give an XL-sized partner the feeling of being fully enveloped by lubing up your hands and using them as an extension of your mouth.
The Sidecar
How to Do It: Lie on your side at the edge of the bed with your head turned toward your partner. Your partner stands next to the bed to receive their BJ. “You can use one hand to hold and direct the penis into your mouth, while controlling the thrusting movement by holding onto your partner’s behind with your other hand,” says Sloan.
Pros: “This is a relaxed way to give a blow job without the giver ever having to get out of bed,” she says. “It’s ideal for lazy Sunday mornings or for anyone with limited mobility.”
Cons: The mouth-to-penis ratio might not quite work. You can elevate your head with a pillow or two, or your partner can squat down a little.
Switch It Up: For a different angle, or if their penis isn’t at mouth level, your partner can put their hands behind you on the bed and lean over you.
Make It Hotter: If you want to be even lazier—yes, it can be done!—have your partner do the thrusting. Fire up a rabbit toy and revel in your ingenuity.
The Face F*ck
How to Do It: Lie on your back. Your partner straddles your face to essentially taking control of the movement themselves. You’ll have your hands free to masturbate or use a toy.
Pros: This works best in more hardcore power exchange situations—with very clear consent along the way.
Cons: This can feel a bit intense if you're not used to submitting, and no worries, it’s definitely not for everyone. Try curling your hand around their shaft as a buffer to control how deep they go.
Switch It Up: Change the power dynamics by using your hand as a buffer, then making your partner beg for a little more.
Make It Hotter: A thrusting toy is great here ‘cause it mirrors what's going on with your mouth.
“Lier’s” Poker
How to Do It: Sit back, leaning against a stack of pillows or the bed frame. Your partner straddles your body, sliding their penis or strap-on into your mouth.
Pros: Your mouth does the work while your hands are free to touch yourself. Plus, it’s surprisingly comfortable.
Cons: Not great for eye contact. You can take the time to share a gaze every once in a while, or convey what you’re feeling via moans.
Switch It Up: Let them thrust into your mouth, or they can stay still and you bring your mouth to them.
Make It Hotter: Go ultra lazy and lie back, letting a toy take the lead.
The Hump and Blow
How to Do It: Your partner lies on their back. You lie face down, straddling a pillow, and slip a lubed hand between your legs. As you suck your partner, slide back and forth over your hand.
Pros: This is ideal if grinding is your thing because you can hump away as you please (and as you're pleasing).
Cons: You won’t have both hands available to enhance your BJ. You can just use one hand, or just go mouth-only.
Switch It Up: Add an arousal gel to enhance your sensations.
Make It Hotter: If you need more power, invest in a toy mount that can hold a Magic Wand.
The Yin Yang Edge
How to Do It: Lie facing each other so you’re in a sideways 69 position. Take turns giving oral sex to avoid that awkward 69 zone where you're simultaneously giving and receiving, yet not doing either properly.
Pros: You get to become more attuned to each other’s bodies and how they respond. Plus watching each other get more turned on amps everything up.
Cons: You might be there awhile. If anyone gets sore, shift around a little until all is well.
Switch It Up: Incorporate edging. Torture your partner by bringing them just to the brink of orgasm, then switch.
Make It Hotter: Draw it out as long as possible for the most explosive orgasm. (If you add edging, remember that frustration is kind of the point. But if it gets too intense, have an “opposite” safe word for when you are absolutely ready to finish.)
The Mouth Off
How to Do It: Lie on your back and let your partner mount your mouth. They can lie on top of you, or, if you lean your head off the edge of the bed, they can stand next to the bed.
Pros: This works well for power play because your partner is fully in control of the thrusting and depth.
Cons: This might feel overwhelming. When you're surrendering control of the depth of penetration, make sure you let your partner know if they’re going too deep or you don’t love it.
Switch It Up: Work your fingers between your legs as you take your partner deeper.
Make It Hotter: If you’re into the power exchange, play up moaning and even gagging a little if it doesn’t feel too fake or porny to you. (This is all about play. If you aren’t into it, don’t do it!)
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