Zachary Zane
Zachary Zane is the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto and co-author of Men’s Health: Best. Sex. Ever. He is currently Grindr’s sex and relationship expert, and his work has been featured in the New York Times, Rolling Stone, Washington Post, Cosmo, GQ, Playboy, and more.
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Latest from Zachary Zane
8 Things That Will Probably Happen During the Holidays If You’re Polyamorous
Including: Apologizing profusely when your parents confuse your partners’ names.
6 Surprising Things I’ve Learned About Non-Monogamy From Dating Porn Stars
It’s about more than just sex—I’ll explain.
Venus Cuffs Is Tired of Sex-Positive Spaces. She Wants Actual Sex Spaces.
Allow the former Dominatrix turned nightlife producer extraordinaire to explain the difference.
If I Want to Have Tons of Unprotected Sex, I Can’t Skip the STI Conversation
In the latest Navigating Non-Monogamy column, Zachary Zane gives you a script for talking about safer sex with your partner.
New to Polyamory, I Was Having Sex With Everyone *Except* My Primary Partner
“Navigating Non-Monogamy” columnist Zachary Zane on how too many options isn’t always a good thing.
De-Escalating My Relationship Blew Up in My Face
In his third installment of “Navigating Non-Monogamy,” Zachary Zane explains why de-escalating (or slowing down) his relationship turned out to be a recipe for resentment.
I Didn’t Have “Commitment Issues”—I Had a Valid Sexual Identity I Didn’t Know Existed
Before he became a Cosmopolitan columnist—check out “Navigating Non-Monogamy”—writer Zachary Zane had to figure out what it meant to be bi, poly, kinky…and something else he wished he’d known about himself years earlier. Here, he uncovers a facet of his sexual orientation that changed his relationships forever.
About the Time I Unintentionally (but Maybe Not *Accidentally*) Cheated on My Boyfriend
“Navigating Non-Monogamy” columnist Zachary Zane explains how unclear boundaries in his open relationship paved the way for him to maybe, sort of, kinda cheat on his boyfriend—despite *technically* not lying. It’s complicated.
I Dove Into Polyamory for All the Wrong Reasons
Introducing “Navigating Non-Monogamy,” a new column in which Zachary Zane walks you through all the fumbles he’s made on his polyamory journey so that you, dear reader, don’t have to.
I Pretended My Grindr Hookup Was a Close Friend and F*cked Him in My Parents’ Hot Tub
Hometown horniness: 1. Parental cockblocking: 0.
Why Don't Millennials and Gen Zers Identify as Swingers?
The label, which you might associate with the key parties of the '70s, is fading out of style with younger generations, and for good reason.
