For myriad reasons, most of us tend to think of sex as a nighttime activity: something to look forward to after a date, to help you unwind after a stressful day at work, or to be had with a hot stranger you meet at the club. And I get it, it’s sexy after dark; way sexier than it is in the day.
But hear us out: at night, you’re sometimes gonna be full after a big dinner, or exhausted after a long day. The morning, meanwhile? You’re full of beans, hungry for life, and not yet jaded by what the day might have in store for you. Seems like a prime time for sex, IMO.
Now, we’re not saying every morning is a morning sex morning. Sometimes you’ve just got to snooze until the last possible minute and then go to work in the shirt you slept in. Other times you might wake up grumpy AF. But, say, on a weekend when you don’t need to be up and about, morning sex is the actual best.
Don’t believe us? Well, believe the science! “Your body is biologically primed for [sex in the morning],” says sexologist Amari. “Testosterone and oestrogen levels are at their highest in the morning, leading to stronger arousal, better stamina, and even more intense orgasms.”
“Plus, it’s a natural mood booster, releasing oxytocin and dopamine, which help reduce stress, strengthen emotional bonds, and set a positive tone for the day ahead.”
“Unlike evening sex, which can be affected by exhaustion or stress from the day, morning sex happens when you’re well-rested and haven’t yet been drained by work, responsibilities, or screens,” she continues. “It can also be quicker and more spontaneous, since you’re already snuggled up in bed, eliminating the need for an elaborate set-up or extensive foreplay.”
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“On top of all that, it provides a natural energy boost, improves circulation, and even counts as a light workout, making it a healthier and more exciting alternative to just hitting the snooze button,” Amari adds. “Who needs a treadmill, am I right?”
Not convinced? Read on for 10 totally legit reasons why you should be having more morning sex — and some tips from Amari on how to have it well.
10 reasons to have morning sex
1. You’re probably already naked. And if you don’t sleep sans pjs, they’re very, very easy to get off. None of that trying to unhook your bra in the least ungraceful way possible.
2. You get to stay in bed longer. Who in their right, human mind would ever say that was a bad thing?
3. You’re more likely to be sober. Unless you’ve been on a giant bender the night before, morning sex = sober sex. Sober sex is more intimate and it feels better (your genitals aren’t numbed by alcohol — go you!). Plus, you’ll actually remember it.
4. If you’re banging a guy, he’ll last longer. Testosterone levels in dudes are at their highest in the morning because they’ve been saving it up all night — this means he’ll probs be able to have sex for longer. Hallelujah!
5. Brekkie will taste even better. Sure, I have no science to back this one up. But after a morning of sexing and snuggling, it feels like you deserve a giant sausage sarnie.
6. You can see everything. If you wait until nightfall to get jiggy with it, it’ll be dark right? In the morning, with the sun streaming through the blinds, you get to see your sex partner in all their glory. Hot AF.
7. You can’t beat that natural smell. Love your partner’s humanly scent? It’s obvs going to be at its best in the morning pre-shower.
8. You can do the laziest position ever and not feel remotely bad about it. Spooning? Mish? Anything goes when it’s 7am.
9. You’re not remotely stressed. You know those evenings where the idea of so much as looking at someone else’s genitals makes you want to vomit? You’re so incredibly stressed from the day’s BS and have a thousand things on your mind, getting naked and clearing your head long enough to have an orgasm is the last thing you can physically do. In the morning none of this is an issue — you are a chill queen.
10. You’ve got bragging rights for the rest of the day. Why not spend the next eight hours pissing your colleagues right off by telling them how awesome your morning sex was? They’ll hate the TMI but you will feel smug as anything.
How to have the best morning sex possible
Although you’ve staved off a bloated belly and stressed-out brain, morning sex comes with its own unsexy hurdles. Looking at you, bad breath.
Luckily, Amari is on hand with some tips to help you have the best morning sex ever, and a few suggested positions to get you started:
- Consent is always the key to having good sex (and sex full stop, obvs), including in the morning. So make sure they are actually awake, coherent, and also in the mood.
- Keep gum or a mint on the nightstand so you can still stay in bed but have nice breath.
- Keep some spicy toys at arms reach, so you can get down and dirty as soon as.
- Tell each other the night before that you want to have sex in the morning to create some extra suspension and excitement.
- Lock the door the night before if you have kids or pets that like to join you in the morning.
Morning sex positions to try
- Spooning: No one even has to move much. Just stay cuddled up and let the magic happen. Plus you don’t need to worry about morning breath.
- Lazy dog: Like doggy style, but with you both lying down. Great for when you want the deep connection but don’t have the energy for full-throttle thrusting. And again, no morning breath.
- Side-by-side: Perfect for sleepy intimacy. Both of you lay on your sides, face-to-face or with a slight spoon, allowing for deep penetration and slow, sensual movement.
- Missionary: Its a classic for a reason!
Paisley is the former Sex and Relationships editor at Cosmopolitan UK. She covers everything from sex toys, how to masturbate and sex positions, to all things LGBTQ. She definitely reveals too much about her personal life on the Internet.
