While masturbating with an object that has the ability to get very warm very quickly may sound like the premise for an episode of 24 Hours in A&E, hear me out on this one, okay? I love temperature play as much as the next person, but a vibrator that heats up while it's inside you? That sounds like a whole other level of sensory experimentation. But look, I'll try anything once, especially in the name of pleasure.
I love a rabbit vibrator. The design is a tried-and-tested classic and there are a ton of different styles to choose from. My personal favourite is the Hera but I've also tried bunny vibes that employ high-tech 'techtodildonics' (that's independent movement for the layperson) and rabbits with all kinds of additional features, from clit suckers to thrusting shafts. Yes, the world of rabbit vibrators is pretty incredible, so naturally, I was keen to try a new style of vibe from So Divine.
The Kiss Kiss is a cute pink rabbit vibrator, pretty innocuous to look at. But it possesses a magical power – it warms to your body temperature, which is somewhere in the region of 36 to 38 degrees Celsius.
What's the point of a vibrator that heats up?
Kiss Kiss has a G-spot-stimulating shaft and rabbit 'ears' that target vibrations to your clit. These can work simultaneously if you're in the market for a blended orgasm, or independently if you'd rather hit one spot at a time.
The 'heat function' is intended to give the toy a lifelike feel that will leave you with a "warm, happy glow", according to So Divine. But why would you want this? Well, the idea of a warming sex toy is that the shaft mimics the sensation of a real penis. The Kiss Kiss is made from squishy silicone with a soft tip and has the added bonus of feeling a little like a dick without any of the faff of actually sleeping with someone attached to one.
Only kidding. Obviously I love a person with a penis and toys will never be a replacement for them. Toys are tools, they're there to enrich and encourage, not intimidate and you could never mistake a toy like this for a real penis, no matter how hot it gets. Remember that next time someone tells you they're feeling threatened by your toy box.
What it felt like
So Divine says it takes around four minutes for the tip of the toy to get up to temperature. So I switched the toy into heat mode and waited. That bit was kind of torturous.
I'm not one of those people who goes straight for the penetration. I mainly want some external goings on before I take things to the next level. And considering 70% or so of women and female-bodied people can't orgasm through penetration, I'm definitely not alone in that.
The slightly-warm tip of the shaft felt fine for clit stimulation (I added lots of water-based lube) and did a reasonable job. The silicone was surprisingly soft, like when you've just shaved your legs for the first time in six weeks, and it felt... nice.
Then I used the actual shaft aka the 'hot' bit. During external stimulation, I could barely tell the thing was any warmer. Once inside, it felt like my G-spot was taking a bubble bath. Or that a fairy had flown in and gently placed a hot water bottle inside. The sensation was oddly comforting. Relaxing almost.
Would I recommend it?
It certainly wasn't the carnal kind of masturbatory experience that leaves you unable to walk and/or look at yourself in the mirror afterwards, but it was lovely nonetheless. In all, it was an incredibly wholesome solo sex experience.
If you tend to feel like using a toy can feel a little cold and clinical, or if you struggle with the sensation of silicone, this might be the toy for you. Just remember to use plenty of lube and go at a pace that feels comfortable.
Emilie Lavinia is Cosmopolitan UK's Former Sex and Relationships Editor. An accredited Sex Educator and Sexologist, Emilie explores identity, equity and innovations in sex, love, wellness and identity with her writing, broadcasting, coaching and commercial work. Emilie has written for the likes of The Guardian, Stylist, Grazia, Woman & Home, Red and Women's Health. She has appeared in documentaries exploring sex and wellbeing by ITV, Channel 5 and the BBC. Emilie has represented the UK as a United Nations Delegate and is a passionate advocate for women's health, LGBTQ+ rights and sex education and public health policy. She is a representative for Young Women's Trust, United Nations Women and The Porn Conversation and works with a number of charities. She loves big books, Bell Hooks, her infrared sauna and her Pomeranian, Ivy Valentine. She lives in London and can give you a rating out of 10 for every sex toy ever invented. Sign up to Emilie's Substack newsletter The Cuff for spice and advice or follow her on LinkedIn, X, Instagram, or her website: emilielavinia.com
Paisley is the former Sex and Relationships editor at Cosmopolitan UK. She covers everything from sex toys, how to masturbate and sex positions, to all things LGBTQ. She definitely reveals too much about her personal life on the Internet.
