- Love Island contestants Yewande, Anna and Amber got candid about orgasms on a new podcast
- Yewande told the girls she's never had an orgasm before
- Anna and Amber's reaction was perfect, and normalised this very relatable experience
I know we all consider society to be more progressive than ever, which is semi-true depending on who you speak to. But even the sex-positive among us can be guilty (often subconsciously) of focusing way too much on orgasms. We argue orgasms shouldn't be the end goal of sex, and we know there are many reasons why women and people with vulvas can't reach orgasm. So why are so many of us still shocked when we hear someone has never had one? Considering sex education is so dire in the UK, and that female masturbation and sexuality is still so stigmatised, it's really not that surprising.
Former Love Island contestants Yewande, Anna and Amber recently appeared on Yahoo UK's Reality Check podcast to talk about orgasms, and during the chat Yewande told the girls she'd never faked an orgasm. Anna replied that she may have faked an orgasm because she "didn't really understand how it worked at the beginning." She added, “It took me ages to understand the female orgasm personally.”
Yewande then jumped in, explaining, “I’ve never had an orgasm before,” adding, “I know, I don’t think I have. I’m being deadly serious.” Instead of reacting with shock and surprise, her fellow Islanders' response totally normalised Yewande's experience. “This is what I mean," Anna replied. "It took me ages to understand it as well, and it’s fine.”
When Anna asked Yewande if she has ever given herself an orgasm, Yewande said she hadn't. Anna explained that it wasn't during partnered sex that she had her first orgasm, and that it was during masturbation that she explored this.
And as Anna rightly pointed out, so many people will relate. “Do you know how many girls are going to relate to you and be like ‘OMG I’m not on my own, this girl’s on Love Island and she hasn’t had it’,” she replied.
The girls hammered home a really important point with this refreshing discussion - that sex education is seriously lacking an emphasis on self-exploration and masturbation. Wouldn't it be ideal if we all orgasmed for the first time on our own? So we knew what we liked and didn't like, before going into partnered sex?
They also discussed the old classic The Magic Number during the podcast. Y'know, how many sexual partners people have and why we're still so obsessed with this meaningless number.
“It’s just the most frustrating thing that a man could have sex with 100 girls and he’s ‘the man’ and if a girl does it, she’s a slag. I hate slut-shaming so much, with a passion,” Anna said.
Yewande replied, “I just don’t understand why it’s a big deal, whether you have sex with one person or ten… I just can’t believe it’s still a question.”
Amen to that.
