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11 best lesbian films that aren't made for the male gaze

And that IRL queer people actually relate to.

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So many films about lesbian and queer women are created by male directors, for the male gaze. They more often than not cast slim, white, femme, conventionally attractive and heterosexual women to play their main characters. It's boring and frustrating. LGBTQ+ users took to Reddit to recommend the movies about queer women that they actually like...

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The Handmaiden

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Mocho Film / Yong Film

This South Korean erotic psychological thriller is in three parts, each more unexpected than the next.

"One of the best movies I've watched, especially with LGBTQ theme. Excellent plot, so refreshing and unexpected. Loved it!" one user said.

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2

Saving Face

Saving Face
Sony Pictures

Female-directed Saving Face centres around an American-Chinese surgeon and her girlfriend.

One user said, "This was my first POC queer movie that made me realise that there's no shame in being gay in a very strict and traditional family."

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3

Pariah

Pariah
Sundial Pictures

Alike, a teenager from Brooklyn, lives with her parents. Unsure whether to tell her parents she's a lesbian, her mum insists she becomes friends with the daughter of someone she works with.

"It's so rare to see lesbian media that doesn't focus on white femmes cheating on their male partners. Pariah mostly deals with the difficulty of learning to understand and be confident in your sexuality while growing up in a religious, black community. Despite the grim title, it also has a decently hopeful ending, which is tricky to find in lesbian movies," one user wrote.

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4

But I'm a Cheerleader

But I'm a Cheerleader
Lionsgate

Natasha Lyonne (Orange is the New Black) stars in this satirical comedy in which her parents send her to a boot camp to try and change her sexual orientation.

One user said it is, "the perfect balance of real queer issues and struggles, with perfectly colour-schemed whimsicalness. Almost as if Wes Anderson made a gay movie."

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5

The World Unseen

The World Unseen
Enlightenment Productions

Shamim Sarif directed this film based on a novel she wrote, how cool is that? It's set in Cape Town in the 50s and follows two Indian South African women as they fall in love.

One user who recommended the film said, "The chemistry between Lisa Raye and Sheetal Sheth is amazing. The two of them totally match together."

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6

Bound

Bound
Dino De Laurentiis Company

This neo-noir crime thriller follows a woman as she tries to escape her gangster boyfriend. She falls in love with another woman and they plot to steal his millions.

One user wrote, "I rented it from the video store over and over again because I was afraid to buy it. It's not just a "lesbian movie" though. The script is compelling, and there are great performances from the whole cast. Great musical score. Baller cinematography."

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7

Desert Hearts

Desert Hearts
The Samuel Goldwyn Company

Directed by Donna Deitch, (who is widely thought of as the first person to create a mainstream lesbian film in a positive and respectful way), Desert Hearts is the story of a professor who gets rid of her husband and moves on with another woman.

"One of the first lesbian movies I watched and I can watch it back to back," one user wrote.

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8

Viola di Mare - The Sea Purple

Viola di Mare
Italian Dreams Factory

When a young woman's family try to force her to stop seeing her female partner, they involve the church. The Sea Purple is based on a true story as well.

One user wrote, "by far the best lesbian movie that I watched. Best storyline and love story."

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9

Yes or No

Yes or No
Come on Sweet

In this Thai film, a sweet girl starts college and moves into a dorm with another woman who identifies as butch. Naturally, their friendship develops.

"Unbelievably underrated. The sweetness is very refreshing!" one user said.

10

Pride

Pride
Canal + / BBC Films

Pride is a historical, comedy drama set in Thatcher's 70s where the LGBTQ+ community help the coal miners go on strike.

One user said, "More of a Queer movie, but it's absolutely fantastic. It's based on a true story, hilarious, and heartwarming." "Always good to see the history and the lives of influential LGBT+ people played in movies.," added another.

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Elena Undone

Elena Undone
Soul Kiss Films

Despite being married to a very traditional pastor who's always preaching about how sinful it is to be homosexual, Elena falls for a woman.

One user said: "fantastic and really relatable towards my life." And although both actors are straight, added, "it still seems like they did a good job reflecting the lesbian experience."

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Click through for 16 of the best LGBTQ+ films everyone should watch

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16 of the best LGBTQ+ films everyone should watch

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Paisley Gilmour
Former Sex & Relationships Editor

 Paisley is the former Sex and Relationships editor at Cosmopolitan UK. She covers everything from sex toys, how to masturbate and sex positions, to all things LGBTQ. She definitely reveals too much about her personal life on the Internet.   

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