Power couples never go out of style. But if Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce are any indication, it’s safe to say we’re currently in a golden age of highly aspirational, highly public relationships. But while star-studded duos from Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds to Megan Markle and Prince Harry may be having a major moment right now, you don’t have to be famous to be power-couple material.

Before we break down expert-approved signs that you’re akin to Swelce, let’s dismiss a common fallacy about the supercouple phenomenon: It’s not about your bank accounts.

“Power couples don’t necessarily make a lot of money. That is a misconception,” clarifies Rachel Needle, Psy.D., co-director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. “A power couple is a couple where each partner can be mutually independent, strong, go after their personal goals, and their partner supports and may add to their success.” Sure, for some couples, this may add up to fame and fortune, but hefty Instagram followers and/or incomes do not necessarily equate to supercouple status. “Power couples work together, value and respect each other, and communicate effectively,” Needle adds.

These are partners that root for one another, know how to communicate, and have lives outside of the relationship—which only make the partnership even stronger. Does that sound anything like your current ’ship (or something you’d like to manifest)? Keep reading for 12 signs that you and your partner are a power couple, as explained by relationship therapists. Here’s how to tell if you’re in the kind of dynamic duo that couple goals are made of.

1. You’re Both Independent

    Power couples are successful and cheer one another on. You may even enjoy co-working or helping one another with your respective careers. However, that doesn’t mean that you’re dependent on one another, financially or otherwise. Power couples thrive on independence.

    “Mutual independence can be an important factor of a healthy power couple dynamic,” explains sex educator Carly S.“It allows both partners to maintain their individuality, pursue personal growth, and contribute to the relationship from a place of strength and autonomy, which can ultimately foster a more balanced, resilient, and fulfilling partnership.”

    2. You Know How to Communicate

    As with pretty much anything within a relationship, Needle explains that solid communication is at the core of every power couple. You communicate if you need to work late rather than leaving your partner at home wondering where you are. You talk about your dreams and desires. Within power couples, surprises shouldn’t be on the table. (You know, unless it’s something fun, like a vacation). Communication is open, and the relationship is a safe space to vocalize your feelings and needs.

    3. You Share Domestic Responsibilities

    Yes, you can be a stay-at-home mom and still be part of a power couple. Or you and your partner could both be blissfully childless and live for your careers. Either way, what’s important is that you communicate about domestic responsibilities and share them in an equitable and fair way.

    “A power couple is intentional about sharing life and/or household responsibilities,” says certified sex therapist Holly Richmond, Ph.D., Associate Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. “The relationship is inherently equitable and mutually supportive.”

    4. You Work Well Together

    Some power couples like to co-work, others end up literally working together or co-founding businesses, and of course, there’s the aforementioned requirement that you balance household responsibilities well. (Any relationship that relies on and reinforces BS gender roles about who should be performing what kinds of duties is not a power couple, full stop.) Whether in the home, in the office, or in therapy together, you should feel like true teammates.

    5. You’re Always Growing (Even If Your Bank Accounts Aren’t)

      Remember: A common misconception about power couples is that it’s all about the money. While, yes, we fully encourage you to go forth and make bank if that’s one of your goals, power couples derive their, well, power, from their ability to continuously grow as people and partners regardless of external situations, not just from their finances.

      “Power couples are strong and successful but don’t rely on money to make them happy,” Needle says. “They are always looking to grow and be better in both their career(s) and personally.”

      6. You Support One Another

        Power couples don’t get bogged down in competing and comparing. Instead, they cheer one another on as hard as Taylor Swift at a Chiefs’ game.

        “Power couples are fundamentally not jealous (this is crucial!) of each other’s success, power, financial status, or recognition,” Richmond says. “Each time one person wins, the other feels the win too. Each person is genuinely proud of the other and is happy to promote their success without always focusing on their own.”

        7. You Take Risks

          Whether it’s at work, by believing in yourself enough to follow your dreams (and support your partner as they do the same), or being ready to take the leap to marriage or moving in together, power couples are okay taking risks. “We can’t be a power couple if we don’t take chances, and sometimes those chances don’t work out in our favor,” says Wise. “The couple is a place to come back to for care, licking wounds, and re-grouping.”

          8. You’re Hardworking

          A couple doesn’t have to be rich to be powerful, but there’s no denying that this term tends to be a nod towards partners who are both ambitious in following their dreams, whether that’s working the corporate ladder, pursuing creative passions, or starting a family. “Power couples are doing amazingly well in their careers and achieving their personal goals, too,” Needle says.

          9. You Follow Through

          Power couples know how to see things to the finish line, whether it’s delivering a project at work or showing up to a date when you say you will. Flakiness and false promises are the antithesis of a power couple.

          10. You Inspire Each Other

          It’s okay if you have totally different interests and ambitions, but as Carly points out, inspiring one another is totally a sign of a power couple. If your partner’s love for life, resilience, and work ethic, in turn, inspires you to be better at what you do, then you should probably go ahead and give yourselves a cute nickname, because you’re totally in power couple territory.

          11. You Help Each Other Out

          Listen, life gets rough sometimes—yes, even for power couples. And when shit hits the fan, best believe these partners are there for each other.

          “There is a shared understanding that if I scratch your back, you will scratch mine,” explains Wise, adding that it’s important to help one another out from a place of genuine caring and not a sense of obligatory reciprocity. If you and your person have reached power-couple status, then you should know that you can always count on them to be there for you through the highs and the lows.

          12. You Don’t Let the Patriarchy Set the Rules

          Within heterosexual relationships, women or gender non-conforming folks are (all too) often expected to bend to accommodate a male partner’s needs at the expense of their own, and that BS simply does not fly within a power couple. Power couples are only power couples if everyone feels empowered and supported, not just the partner with the most privilege.