10 Threesome Sex Positions to Fulfill Your Hottest Fantasies
Whether you’re looking to check this experience off your sexual bucket list or a threesome is just another casual Wednesday for ya, you’re gonna wanna try these—trust.
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Two people in bed is already loads of fun, but bringing in a third adds a whole new layer of thrill. Having a threesome is a super sexy way to heat up your bed game and try new things. While it might take a little more effort to get all your parts in/by/on that of your partners', all the planning is so worth it, and we’re here to make it a little easier. Behold: 17 threesome sex positions for your sex-having pleasure.
If it’s your first rodeo, a few logistics: Understand you and your partner’s motivations and desires for the threesome, says Carol Queen, staff sexologist at Good Vibes. If you’re not that into it and you’ve agreed more so for your partner’s sake than yours, or if you feel like you’re giving the threesome as a “gift” to your S.O., ask yourself whether you really want to have this experience. Don’t feel obligated to go through with anything you’re not 100 percent comfortable with!
“Some partners think they want a threesome, but haven't thought about all the potential feelings that could manifest after,” says sex educator Shani Hart, certified sexuality coach and co-owner of Hart’s Desires. Ask yourselves: What are your expectations for the experience? How will you deal with jealousy? What are the rules and boundaries you’re going to establish? “Minimize all the necessary mind-reading by talking it through first, including all the parts that might be vulnerable to either/both of you!” says Queen.
And of course, talk through how you’re going to find a third and what the boundaries will be there. “Are you and your partner bringing in an unknown third person with the expectation you will never interact with that person again? Are you bringing in a friend you both find hot but neither of you want to pursue a romantic connection with? Are you looking for a third who could be a repeat hookup?” says sex educator Rebecca Blanton, aka Auntie Vice, co-host of the Fat Chicks on Top podcast.
Remember: Everyone gets a say in what goes down. If the threesome is you, your partner, and a guest, make sure you’re communicating clearly with your guest about what they want out of the experience and respect those boundaries. “People who are thirds in a threesome need their emotional and sexual needs considered,” says Blanton.
And finally some precautions. First and foremost, discuss your safe sex options and talk about STIs. Discuss whether you’re going to use toys beforehand (here are some great ones for a threesome) instead of busting out a super-sized anal plug as a fun surprise in the middle of your human pretzel position. And have an exit plan in place should anyone want to bail, safe words highly encouraged.
Here are some great ways to get you three into bed with minimal awkwardness/maximum hotness.
The Pleasure Fairy
Ready for some pleasure fairy magic? “The third comes over to the two who are focused on each other and adds value via touching, stroking, using toys on one, or both. Adding lube when necessary is a fabulous role too!” says Queen. “This is also a great position if someone's a little too overwhelmed or not ready to be the center of attention, but also doesn't want to just sit in the corner and watch. In a threesome, there is always something to do.”
Mouthing Off
If one person really loves giving oral, lean into it. “Two people fuck (dick or strap-on, whichever) in a position that leaves some room between their bodies,” says Queen who suggests Cowgirl or Doggy Style. “The third person gets their face down in there and helps out by adding oral. Don't squish them! This is great for someone who likes to do cunnilingus and is happy to get a lick in."
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The Assist
“For people who are into cuckold fantasies or if a partner really enjoys voyeurism, this is a great option. One partner sits in a chair nearby and uses a sex toy on themselves while they watch the other two people make out and have sex,” says Blanton. You can also take it another direction by having the chair-sitter direct the action. Blanton recommends a wand vibrator with attachments for internal hot spot stimulation or penis-stroking.
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The Eiffel Tower
According to the hallowed wisdom of the Urban Dictionary, the infamous Eiffel Tower position is generally a MMF scenario, but f*ck the patriarchy—make it your own. The person in the middle is both a giver (of oral) and receiver (of a penis or strap-on, hole choice optional). The two people sides of the tower high five in celebration of their good fortune. Add a tongue vibrator and edible lube if you want to be extra fancy
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The Switch
Have both your partners get on all fours facing away from you. Lube up your hands and start rubbing and stroking one of your partners’ vulva or penis. When the other one can't take it, they yell “switch” and you start in on them. (If you want to give it a BDSM twist, this works for spankings and other torments as well, but with the receiver calling “switch” when they can’t take it anymore.) It's part game to sort of break the ice, part chance to (literally) fuck everyone up in the best way possible.
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The Fever Dream
Everyone gets a fine-ass view if you arrange yourselves like so: A penetrating partner enters you from behind, your upper leg draped back and over their hips. The second receiving partner lies on their back so their sexy parts are within kissing distance from your mouth. Another win-win-win situation.
The Best Kind of Sandwich
It's the position version of perfect jeans—basic, but versatile enough to work with anything. Lie on top of one partner. Penetrate them with a vibrating strap-on (slide a bullet vibe inside the harness for you) or go analog and just rub together, using fingers as needed. Your penis-owner/dildo-wearer kneels between your legs and picks a hole to enter. Use it as a template—switch out the D with a third vulva owner (with or without strap-on), put someone in the middle if they’re into anal penetration, have the person in back work on the other two orally, or whatever your three kinky little hearts desire
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The Double Down
This is a threesome classic—it’s not too tricky and no one feels left out! The penis-owner/dildo-wearer lies on their back while one person mounts their penis and the other sits (lightly, it’s more of a hover) on their mouth. The two people on top can smooch and play with each other while the other basks in the very thing they’ve been fantasizing about forever. Switch places if you want to change the sensations.
The Daisy Petal
Take turns giving one person an oral overwhelm. Start with you, just because, and sit at the edge of a bed or chair, pushing your knees apart. They can both use their mouths on you at once or take turns, kissing each other between. Trade off after, if you can manage to move.
The Chain Link
If a spontaneous threesome breaks out in the living room, have your third sit on the couch while you get on all fours in front of them for some oral love. When your other partner is ready (in probably two seconds), they kneel and take you from behind. It’s extra good because everyone gets something and your third feels each of the thrusts via your mouth.
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