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The chairman sex position is just what you need to spice up reverse cowgirl

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If you’re looking to add a new move to your sexual bucket list, allow us to introduce you to the chairman. It’s basically reverse cowgirl, but as that whole ‘chair’ bit in the name strongly implies, everyone gets to sit down.

“Don’t be afraid to modify the traditional cowgirl for your needs,” says sex expert for SKYN, Gigi Engle. “With the chair, you’re not doing as much up and down bouncing, which can cause a serious thigh burn. Not only does your partner get a great rear view, but, if you like, you can rest your hands on their legs for a little extra leverage.”

You can also tweak the chairman to your liking, whether that’s by adjusting the speed of the thrusting, the depth of penetration, or where, exactly, you want body parts rubbing together.

“When your partner (of any gender) is on top, they can take full control of the rhythm and speed of sex — which maximises their pleasure while the receiver gets to go along for the (literal) ride,” says Engle. The person on top can lower themselves gradually for slower, shallower penetration (especially handy if you experience pain during sex, your partner is particularly well-endowed, or if they’re sporting a seriously large strap-on), or hold themselves up on their feet for extra deep penetration. “It’s also optimal for bringing in toys,” says Engle. Pretty much any vibrator works, as do penis rings and butt toys.

If you’re ready to take the chairman’s seat (or actually ~be~ the chairman’s seat) here are some ways to get started.

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The classic chairman

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One person sits at the edge of a couch, bed, or chair, the other person faces aways and kneels, straddling their partner’s thighs, lowering themselves on to a penis or strap-on.

“Grab a toy for external clitoral action,” says Engle. Pick something with a girthy head, like a wand vibrator, she suggests. “It makes it really easy to access the clitoris while you’re still riding in this position. Let’s face it, we don’t need a lot of extra work when we’re already in a reversed position.”

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The sliding scale

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If you’re the one on top, change the way you move for a different sensation. “For maximum pleasure, try sliding back and forth during this position,” says Engle. “It’s much more pleasurable. It can feel really intense and quite unique compared to other forms of stimulation.”

If either of you are into butt plugs, now would be the time to fire them up.

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The backroom deal

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“In anal sex, this position is the bomb because you get to control the depth and thrusting patterns with relative ease,” says Engle. “Have your partner sit back comfortably. Straddle them backwards and slide down at your leisure.” (Don’t forget to use a literal butt-load of lube.)

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 Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.  

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