17 of the best gender-affirming sex toys for trans and non-binary people

Designed for queer, trans masculine, and non-binary bodies, this pump increases blood flow to the genitals via suction to create more sensation and a more intense orgasm.

“The easy to use design ensures that everyone can achieve instant and comfortable growth,” say the makers.

Whether you’re a beginner or a practiced pumper, the three inch cylinder vacuums around the genitals to increase size and sensitivity — and can be built up over time for stamina training — before solo or partnered sex.

Be warned, though: this toy does not come with a hand pump or hose, so you’ll need to buy those separately — try this one or this one for a perfect fit.

While this vibrator is (kind of unnecessarily, IMO) called the ‘Guybrator’, it’s not exclusively for ‘guys’.

More a of an oscillator than a vibrator, the Pulse provides rumbly stimulation along the entirety of the shaft and frenulum for deep stimulation. Crafted with firm textured silicone, this toy sends six vibration patterns (each with eight speeds) that can be easily controlled with the two buttons on the side.

Plus, the original technology was designed with spine-injury patients in mind, so you don’t need an erection to enjoy it — and at 55dB it’s not the loudest toy out there. A win is a win!

Not everyone wants to be an acrobat during sex (solo or partnered), so no judgement here if you want to basically... just sit while getting off.

This toy, which looks a bit like the Stranger Things’ demogorgon’s head, is designed to give you, well, otherworldly head. Made of slick bendy silicone, and kitted with 10 vibration patterns controlled by a handy remote, the N5 can be used for internal or external stimulation.

We’ll leave it to you to get creative with how to use this one, but here are some hints: it works as a grinding toy, a masturbation sleeve, or a panty vibe. Your move, player!

The beautiful thing about cock rings (obviously not their name...) is that they can be used in a ton of ways other than the obvious. Attach it to a dildo, use it as a clit vibrator, or simply brush it over any of your external erogenous zones; these round tools are deceptively versatile.

The Atom Plus has two motors — front and back — to send its deep vibrations across your entire underside, which, according to the makers, “delivers deep perineum stimulation as well as intense vibrations to the top of the shaft, leading to an incredible climactic experience.”

Only one way to prove that theory, am I right?

Regardless of what genitals you have or what kind of sex you’re having, lube should always be a part of your arsenal.

This Liquid Silk lube is water-based, so it can be used with all your sex toys (not all lube is created equal — you can’t use silicone lube with silicone sex toys, for example, so it’s best to opt for a water-based variety that can be used with condoms and all toys).

It’s also long lasting and doesn’t become tacky when it dries. Oh, and obviously it comes in this huge bottle, so you don’t have to worry about it running out too soon.

If you want to get in on some strap-on action without removing your underwear, this boxer harness is the perfect solution.

Not only do they fit a number of body sizes and shapes — with a waist that stretches between 60-100cm — but they hide your bulge with a slip-proof internal strap (<3) and can accommodate dildos up to two inches in diameter. Sadly, a dildo isn’t included with this pair, but we’d recommend this one if you need an addition!

Plus, if penetration alone isn’t enough for you, these briefs also include two pockets for adding bullet vibrators and packers.

Speaking of strapping, you’ll need a dildo. This Bondara silicone one is great for beginners and the ribbed shaft adds an extra layer of O-so good texture for your partner.

Natch, the curved shaft and bulbous head is designed for G-spot stimulation — so you know you’ll be hitting all the right notes.

And of course it features a flared suction cup base, so you can attach it to a surface or slide it into a strap-on harness for hands-free penetration. Just check it’s compatible with the O-ring size of your harness — or buy a new one. You deserve a little treat!

If you want to add a little extra buzz to your strap-on game, try a vibrating dildo.

This one from Lovehoney has six hollow inches inside it for the wearer, and eight inches of ribbed insertable length for the giver — hot tip: you can use it for either vaginal or anal penetration.

And so you don’t have to fumble around with any awkward bullet buttons mid-sex, its three vibration speeds and seven patterns are controlled by a handy remote control.

It’s likely you’ll get a kick out of the vibrations too, even if you have a vulva, thanks to its elastic strap that wraps around the crotch...

Not everyone is totally into, or ready for penetration — and that’s okay. There’s a myth that sex only ‘counts’ if it includes penetration, but in case you weren’t already up to speed: that’s not true!

Whether you’re not down with the idea of having something *totally* inside you — a dildo or otherwise — or you’re recovering from vaginoplasty surgery, dilators can be a great in between to build up to full-on penetration.

This set from Lovehoney is intended to help you work your way up over time — with plenty of water-based lube, of course.

Okay, so this vibe kinda looks like a climbing hold... and maybe it would be, if your genitals could climb.

But that sounds like a lot of effort, and TBH way less pleasurable. So don’t worry! Thankfully, it’s actually a sit-on vibrator with two protruding nubs that are ideal for grinding against your clitoris, perineum, testicles, or shaft.

It even comes with a remote control, so whether you’re playing solo, or you want a toy that you can seamlessly incorporate into sex, you can switch between its 10 vibration speeds at the click of a button. Find that glow!

An essential aspect of sex — for the LGBTQ+ community, at least — fingers are great and all, but sometimes they can do with a little extra oomph.

This finger vibrator from Wild Flower is designed to be gender neutral. With two wings on the back, it easily slips onto your fingers, so you can trail it over your own sweet spots — or your partner’s — with ease.

Plus, its curved front moulds with the shape of the body, so its three vibration speeds and three patterns are delivered directly to your erogenous zones as you stroke. You won’t be able to get Ova this one...

Designed by Ob/Gyns for those experiencing pain and dryness, the Crescendo 2 is the world’s first ever flexible vibrator. It can be bent to fit all bodies — with the intention of promoting blood flow to the pelvis — and has several motors, meaning you can feel the vibrations along its entire six inches.

Taking all-rounder literally, this bendy buzzer can be used in a ton of ways — it can be bent to wrap around your shaft, stimulate your G-spot or your P-spot, perineum, or any other part of your body.

Oh, and need we mention that it’s been shown to improve Genito-pelvic pain and penetration disorder by 480%? Woah...

Spareparts offers a variety of harnesses, from the femme Sasha to the masc Tomboi, so there’s a style for everyone.

The utilitarian Joque toes the line between the two, with a waist that adjusts between 20 and 50 inches, and an O-ring that can stretch between 1.25 inches and 2 inches so you can experiment with switching out dildos.

Crafted with poly-spandex and lined with mesh, the Joque is also designed to be ultra-comfortable and pleasurable for the wearer — so you can both experience the full range of sensations, especially if you choose to add a vibrator to the two pockets.

If there’s one thing Smile Makers knows how to do, it’s create accessible and good-quality toys that work for everyone. Not only do its toys come in a range of gender-neutral colours, but they’re all crafted from the softest silicone around, and most come with a satin storage pouch and sticker for an extra touch (we love a little gift with our pleasure products)!

Made from ultra-squishy silicone, the Ballerina is a hands-free vibrator that can sit neatly between your legs. Vulva-owners can rest the pointier end on their clitoris, while the toy can also be used to stimulate the perineum, shaft, or dragged over your nipples for some external erotic massage.

For those on the more experienced side of anal play who want to try some new sensations, vibrating butt plugs offer a deeper level of stimulation.

This Bondara number is hollow, so none of the vibrations are lost inside the silicone — meaning they’re delivered directly to your anus once it’s inserted for extra powerful stimulation. Yum!

It even comes with a removable bullet vibrator, which you can use to stimulate your erogenous zones during foreplay, or insert it in dildos or strap-ons (just be sure to clean it first)!