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5 sex experts share their favourite sex positions
Who better to ask for tips than women who teach about sex for a living?
Whether you’re single and sleeping around, in the midst of a new fling and feeling experimental, or looking to spice things up in a long-term relationship, it can be overwhelming to decide where to start. Should you introduce sex toys? Some sexy lingerie? What about roleplay, some beginner BDSM, or even introducing a third (or fourth...) into the mix?
It can even be as simple as just switching up your regular sex positions – though that comes with challenges of its own. Should you invest in a copy of the Kama Sutra? Which position should you try first? Are you really flexible enough for that one? Besides, is there anything better than plain old missionary? (Spoiler: there is.)
Luckily for you, we’ve organised a bunch of our top sex position recommendations (like these!) into handy little lists, so you’ll have no trouble getting inventive in the bedroom. Even luckier, we’ve got some sex experts on board, too. Do women who teach about sex have access to some sort of secret wisdom on the best, more glorious sex positions? Maybe?? Let’s ask ’em some nosy questions and find out!
The Sideways Ohm
“The Sideways Ohm is my favorite for the range of vaginal or anal sensations it provides, plus unlimited clit access,” says Elle Chase, a certified sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex.
“This position can also be readjusted according to one’s liking to arrive at many different permutations. The giver can hold onto the hip to assist with balance or for better leverage when thrusting. The receiver can lift their outer leg up to try a different angle. And if you’re a fan of deeper penetration, have the giver spread their butt cheeks or place a pillow under their hip.”
The Dog Star
“I love [doggy] with a full-length mirror in front of us. This allows us to oscillate back and forth from carnal energy – sometimes with eyes closed, enjoying the intensity of speed this position allows, or intimate energy, with slower thrusting and eye contact in the mirror,” says Dr. Jenni Skyler, a sex therapist, sexologist, and licensed marriage and family therapist for Adam & Eve. She also recommends adding a toy like a wand vibrator.
Side Scissors
“It’s not spooning exactly, but where the woman is lying on her side and the man is behind her,” says Kendra Holliday, a sex positive activist.
“I like it because it’s comfortable, easily offers more or less body contact depending on the angles, good penetration, and the woman/vulva-haver has easy access to clit stimulation with their hand or vibe. Plus, it’s kind of sexy and kinky. Just looking at that position turns me on – I think because the woman/vulva-haver is showcased, and the other partner is more like a prop.”
Sharing Good Vibes
“Have one partner sit in a chair or on a sofa and place a small vibrator on top of their pelvic bone, while the other straddles on top, grinding down so you both get the sensation of vibration as your bodies rock against one another,” says Lisa Finn, a sex educator at Babeland.
“Bonus: you can do this facing each other for making out, or face the same direction for a seated take on the reverse cowgirl.”
The Pusher
“This one is great if you have a male/penis-having partner who is larger than you,” says Kendra Holliday, a sex positive activist.
Lie back like missionary’s about to happen, but your partner kneels instead of lying on top of you. It’s a great angle for internal stimulation, and you can also switch it up by lying on your side in the foetal position.
Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.
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