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Spooning sex is great for intimacy. If you (somehow) don’t know what it is, it’s basically what it says on the tin – a cuddle and fuck combined. It’s a smooth transition from the world’s cosiest cuddling position – side-by-side, butt-to-back – which mimics how spoons fit together. Cute!
You don’t need me to explain how you can move from cuddling to sex – or, as they say, from spooning to forking – but here’s some benefits of spooning sex: it’s super comfortable, great for building bonds, and perfect when you’re feeling tired, say, in the morning before work, or at 2PM on a Saturday when you’ve just woken up horny and hungover in equal measure.
But, even if this is your fave position, it can get a bit boring if you don’t mix it up – so, without further ado, here’s 5 spooning sex positions to ramp things up a notch, no matter how lazy you’re feeling.
The Serving Spoon
If you dig the cozy laziness of spooning but it doesn’t quite get you there, these tweaks = huge difference.
First, press your legs firmly together for a tighter feel. Second, tilt your pelvis down a little so your clit is getting more contact with the top of their penis. Third, fill their hand with lube and press it between your legs so they’re cupping you. They glide their hand up your vulva on the out thrusts, down on the in.
Spoon Dog
For a more intense vibe, lean your body forward and curl up – it’s like you were in doggie, but fell on your sides. Slide your feet back between their legs while they hold onto your hips to pull you deeper onto them for OMG-level penetration.
The Slutted Spoon
If you like fast, explosive sex with lots of thrusting, lift your upper leg up and hook it back around their butt. They prop themselves up on an elbow and grab hold of your thigh for the deep, vigorous thrusts you crave. Position yourself near a wall or headboard and prop a hand or foot against it for leverage to match them thrust for thrust.
Spoon River
Nestle yourself between your partner’s legs and guide the sexy, sexy spray of the detachable shower head between your legs. The love of a shower spray can be kind of intense, so make you’re the one wielding it. They can cup your boobs and kiss your earlobes, while you just lean your head back on their chest and bliss out.
If, tragically, your shower head is not detachable, a soapy hand job works or gentle clit massage works too.
Silver Spoon
Spooning is great for first time anal because you partner’s weight isn’t on you, and so it’s harder for them to suddenly go way too deep. Follow the usual anal precautions (buckets of lube, go super slow, etc.) and make it hotter for you up front by sliding a curved steel dildo inside your V. Gently rock the toy inside you, matching their thrusts. Use a towel to hold onto the end – it can get slippery. They’ll dig it too because they’ll be able to feel the smooth head gliding against them as they thrust.
If you want to class it up further, they can pop in a metal butt plug for intense P-spot stimulation.
Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.
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