We all know that dating in 2025 is no walk in the park. Dating apps aren’t really working for anyone, but the IRL alternatives — singles events, setting up your mates, being brave enough to approach someone in public — tend to either be equally unappealing, too nerve-wracking, or they just... also don’t work.
Women who date men seem to be having a particularly hard time. Here at Cosmo, we’ve heard from a lot of women about the trials and tribulations of trying to find an eligible bachelor — one who messages back, doesn’t think women’s rights have gone ‘too far’, and won’t treat you like a parent/therapist. The dating scene has been so bleak in recent years that many women have given up altogether, instead going ‘boy sober’ or taking a vow of celibacy.
But what’s it like on the other side of the coin? Men’s voices dominate most aspects of our lives, and yet when it comes to dating, they tend to be bizarrely quiet. Does that mean they’re unaffected by the turbulent dating scene? Or are they just not as vocal about how shitty it is?
So, for an upcoming Cosmopolitan UK feature, we want to find out what single men (who date women) really think of today’s dating scene.
Men, we’re asking: Are you equally jaded and frustrated? Do you think you’ve been misrepresented in mainstream dating discourse? How important is politics in your dating life? Have you ever chosen to go ‘girl sober’? How are you meeting people? Do you have icks? Have you ghosted someone before, and, if so, why?
If, then, you’re a single man who dates women and you’re based in the UK or Ireland, we’d love to hear from you in our survey below. All your answers will be totally anonymous. What would you love Cosmo readers to know?
