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The best strap-ons to shop now, from harnesses, to dildos, and strapless sex toys

Strap in for pegging, power play and double penetration sex toy recs

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Since humans learned the difference between rocks and food, we’ve been using dildos of various persuasions to get our kicks. (No, seriously, the earliest dildos — made of anything from rocks, bananas, or leather — trace back to Ancient Egypt and Greece.)

So it makes sense that we’ve since created ways to reap the benefits of dildos without even having to hold them. Enter: the strap-on. While well-known as a lesbian sex essential, strap-on and strapless dildos have a breathtaking (we mean it) array of usages, and can be enjoyed by LGBT+ and heterosexual couples alike.

Whether you’re in a WLW (women who love women — get to know) relationship, looking to explore pegging, or simply want to unleash your dominant side, these body-braced sex toys are the ideal choice for hands-free, and sometimes mutual, penetration.

From double-ended jockstraps to dainty lace pegs, we share expert tips on how to choose the ideal dildo and harness for your pleasure. Keep scrolling for our pick of the best strap-on sex toys for any and every sexual scenario.

The best strap-ons at a glance

What is a strap-on?

In its simplest form, a strap-on sex toy is a makeshift penis designed to be worn during sex. “Traditional strap-ons are options that allow one user to penetrate a partner during sex,” explains Glenise Kinard-Moore, founder and creator of thevdom.com.

Fashioned from all manner of materials over the millennia including stone, wood, and even elephant tusk, you’ll be pleased to hear that 21st century sex tech has raised the bar since the discovery of silicone. These days dildos come in every imaginable shape, size, colour, and density, including vibrating, double-ended, and strapless.

Harnesses have also had a reboot and you can choose from leather, nylon, lace, and even discreet briefs designed to comfortably hold your shlong in place.

Is strap-on sex for you?

Strap-ons sex toys can work wonders in any number of sexual scenarios, including power play, double penetration, or switching up traditional gender roles. But misconceptions about who uses them could discourage people, says Kinard-Moore. “The truth is, strap-ons are used by anyone who has a need or is simply interested,” she explains. “The benefit of using a strap-on is that you are able to add an option to the bedroom no matter how you identify sexually.”

Some heterosexual couples experiment with strap-on sex because they enjoy pegging — when a cisgender woman anally penetrates her cis male partner. Or perhaps you’re in a lesbian or queer relationship and don’t have a penis but still enjoy the feeling of penetration. Or maybe you have a penis but struggle with erectile dysfunction and still want to pleasure your lover. Or you might simply appreciate some additional girth, fancy exploring multiple orifices all at once, or maybe you’re just curious! Whatever gets you off, irrespective of your sexuality, you are all invited to the strap party.

Strap-on terminology to know

  • Dildo: The phallic-shaped portion of the strap-on that is used for penetration. These sometimes imitate an erect penis, and sometimes are more obscure-looking. There are endless types of dildo, from anal to glass, double-ended, beaded, realistic, and vibrating — in a range of sizes.
  • O ring: An O-shaped ring, usually placed directly over your mons pubis/ clitoral area, to loop a dildo through. Harnesses either come with these attached, or with multiple options so you can attach multiple dildos as you like.
  • Harness: An underwear-shaped sling, that literally provides the strap in ‘strap-on’ for the dildo. These come in a range of colours, sizes, and fabrics and can be classed as jockstraps, thongs, or underwear.
  • Strapless strap-on: A dildo that doesn't need to be attached using a harness, but instead sits inside the wearer using a ‘pony’ (usually a shorter insertable dildo that goes into the giver's vagina). Top tip: if you're going to use these, do your kegels...
  • Pony: Used describe the end of the strapless strap-on that goes inside the wearer (ie. not the main dildo end that is used to penetrate the receiver).

16 best strap-on sex toys to shop now

Now that we've covered the basics of strap-ons, you're ready to get shopping. To save you confusion and time scrolling, our sex writer compiles a list of the best strap-ons, strapless strap ons, and harnesses to buy now.

For a more bespoke experience, we'd recommend shopping for your harness and dildo separately, but beginner kits that include both are a great place to start. Keep scrolling for our pick of the best strap-on kits to suit every scenario.

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Best starter kit

Ann Summers Be Proud Vibrating Strap On Set

Be Proud Vibrating Strap On Set

Pros

  • Adjustable harness — from XS to XL
  • Rechargeable bullet
  • Great beginners set

Cons

  • Can't be used with silicone lube

Whether you're a strap-on novice or experimenting expert, the key is to be loud and proud about your status — confidence is sexy, remember!

This strap-on starter kit from Ann Summers is perfect for any strapper stage, as it includes three different-sized O rings, two dildos – one bigger, one smaller with a ridged tip — and a customisable harness, suitable for sizes XS to XL and compatible with all Ann Summers dildos. So you can invest in a bigger dildo, or use one you already have.

Plus, it comes with a rechargeable vibrating bullet that has 10 vibration settings — ideal if penetration isn't enough to get you to the big O (which it isn't for most women).

TypeVibrating strap-on kit
MaterialSilicone
In the box2 dildos, harness, bullet vibrator, 3O-rings, USB charging cable
Insertable lengthRidge tip dildo: 4.5 inches. Smooth dildo: 5 inches
GirthBoth 1 inch diameter
PowerRechargeable
WaterproofYup!
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Best beginner strap

Lovehoney Beginner's Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit

Beginner's Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit

Pros

  • Put a bullet in the little pocket for added vibes
  • Adjustable, machine-washable harness

Cons

  • Strap edges can rub a little

This starter pack has been designed with pegging in mind. But thanks to the dainty five-inch dildo included in the kit, it's ideal for anyone interested in penetration including people with vaginas.

The set includes three different O-rings so you can gradually build up to a bigger dildo, if you please. What's more, there's space for a bullet vibe in the harness (you'll need to buy that separately), so everyone gets to orgasm. Can we get an amen?

TypeStrap-on harness kit
In the boxHarness, 5-inch dildo, 3 O-rings
MaterialSilicone
Insertable length4.5 inches
Girth3 inch circumference
PowerNone
WaterproofSubmersible
3
Best strap on harness

Sportsheets Chantilly Lace Extra Support Corset-Back Strap-On Harness

Chantilly Lace Extra Support Corset-Back Strap-On Harness

Pros

  • A prettier harness option, if that’s what you’re going for
  • Super padded, to avoid any uncomfortable cut-off circulation moments…
  • Throw it in the washing machine
  • Size inclusive

Cons

  • O-ring poppers can be stiff and fiddly when changing dildos

If you want your harness to feel more like lingerie than a dildo sling, this option from Sportsheets blends functionality, comfort, and sensuality.

Covered in red lace, this harness takes its inspo from a corset, with a lace-up back that plunges to showcase your bum and loops around your legs — to avoid any of that awkward vulva chafing mid-sesh.

And, of course, we wouldn’t recommend a harness that puts style over substance, so this sensual number comes with three O rings (1.5 inch, 1.75 inch, and 2 inches) — to let you switch in your fave dildos as you please.

Oh, and if you’re shopping for a new dildo, we’d recommend this beginner-friendly one or this longer realistic one to fit this harness. You’re welcome!

TypeLace strap-on harness for dildo
In the boxHarness
SizeMaximum harness size 60 inches
GirthComes with 3 interchangeable O rings: 1.5 inch, 1.75 inch and 2 inch
Washing instructionsMachine washable
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Best strapless strap-on

Lovehoney Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On Dildo Vibrator

Luxury Strapless Strap-On Dildo Vibrator

Pros

  • Comes in luxe leather storage pouch
  • Triple motors for controlling each setting

Cons

  • You need good kegel muscles to hold it inside you — like seriously good

If you love penetrating or pegging your beloved but long for some stimulation in return, this clever sex toy has combined the magical powers of a Rabbit vibe with a G-spot stimulator for your pleasure!

So you can hump your lover into submission while the well-placed rabbit ears massage your clit to orgasmic bliss. It's also strap-free, relying on the strength of your vaginal muscles to hold the eight inches of insertable dildo in place.

It sounds ambitious, but once you've mastered your technique you can look forward to multiple orgasms all round.

TypeVibrating strapless strap-on
In the boxLeather storage pouch, USB cable, and strapless dildo
MaterialSilicone
Insertable lengthReceiver: 5 inches. Giver: 4.5 inches.
GirthReceiver: 4.25 inch circumference. Giver: 4.75 inch circumference
PowerRechargeable
WaterproofSubmersible
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Best realistic strap on

Lifelike Lover Luxe Posable Realistic Silicone Strapless Strap-On

Luxe Posable Realistic Silicone Strapless Strap-On

Pros

  • Best gender affirming strapless strap on
  • Shared enjoyment for wearer and receiver
  • Six insertable inches are certainly not to be sniffed at

Cons

  • Only comes in one skin tone 👎
  • Some say the material is too hard and pale, even on pale skin

Sometimes as the giver, you want your dildo to match, well, you…

This option from Lovehoney’s Lifelike Lover collection doesn’t skimp on the details to fulfil your schlong fantasies, as it features a realistic tip, plenty of veins to stimulate the receiver, a three-inch pony for you (don’t say we don’t look after you!) and six insertable inches that you can adjust to find *just* the right angle.

Unfortunately, usually inclusive Lovehoney hasn’t made this strapless strap in other skin tones — so they do lose a point for that. But one reviewer does say that it does wonders for gender affirming and “positioning around thighs and bellies.” You win some, you lose some!

Oh, and if it’s a combo of vibrations and penetration you’re after, it even comes in a vibrating version with a removable bullet. That will certainly get the job done!

TypeRealistic strapless strap-on
MaterialSilicone
In the boxStrap on
Insertable length6 inches
Girth4.5 inches circumference
PowerNone
WaterproofSubmersible
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Best rabbit strap-on

Happy Rabbit Strapless Strap-On

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Pros

  • Beginner-friendly vibrating strap on option
  • Shared vibes <3
  • Travel lock to avoid awkward airport encounters

Cons

  • Use plenty of lube (and do lots of foreplay!) as the material is on the harder side

Look, tops do a lot of work and here at Cosmo we are firm believers they deserve to be rewarded for it. Thanks to whoever had the genius idea to combine rabbit vibes (a classic) with a strapless strap-on, this Happy Rabbit was born.

And don’t worry — it’s designed so both partners are happy bunnies, as one end features a 4.5 inch pony, while the other is home to a comfortable 5.5 inches of insertable length.

To top it all off, 12 vibrations rumble throughout the entire toy, providing G-spot stimulation for the wearer and fluttering C-spot stim for the wearer.

Race you both to the check out, we guess?

TypeVibrating strapless strap on with rabbit with 15 vibration modes
MaterialSilicone
In the boxStrap and charger
Insertable lengthReceiver: 5.5 inches. Giver: 4.5 inches.
GirthReceiver: 4.25 inches. Giver: 4.5 inches
PowerRechargeable
WaterproofSubmersible
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Best inclusive fit strap on harness

BB Outlet Fits Everybody Harness

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Fits Everybody Harness

Pros

  • Adjustable straps
  • Comfy for all sizes
  • Throw her in the wash

Cons

  • Baby pink might not be your cuppa...

If anyone knows that pleasure should be inclusive for everyone, it’s Bellesa. That’s why it has made its very own budget sex toy outlet — to make sure anyone can afford to invest in a new piece of sex tech for their collection.

This ‘fits everybody’ harness is not just on the list because it’s an adorable pale pink (we promise) — but also because it’s designed specifically to fit a range of body types, with broad back coverage and adjustable straps.

And — if we’re getting practical with it — it’s easy to clean and comes with added O rings. As always, we won’t leave you hanging without dildo recs: it’s suitable with any of Bellesa’s own brand options but this vibrating one looks like a great option, as does a slim realistic dildo. Thank us later x

TypeAdjustable, one size fits most harness
In the boxHarness and 2 O-rings
Size23.6" - 74.8" inch waist
Washing instructionsMachine washable
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Best leather strap-on harness

DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Strap-On Harness

Deluxe Leather Strap-On Harness

Pros

  • Sexy design and feel
  • Not bulky, like regular harnesses

Cons

  • Doesn’t fit smaller waists as smallest size is 34 inches
  • Leather can be uncomfy (so don’t say we didn’t warn you!)

Bondage babes, this one is for you. Yes, this harness is made of leather, but what’s more exciting than that (we think) is the buckle-style adjustment, plunging cut outs at the front and back, and slit at the crotch.

Not only is it sleek, but it can fit a range of wait sizes and dildo girths alike — due to its adjustable O-ring that can be changed anywhere between 1.5 and 2.4 inches (so it’s beginner-friendly, too!).

TypeLeather harness with jock strap
SizeAdjusts between 34 and 46 inch-waist and 23 and 31 inch-thighs
In the boxHarness
GirthO-ring adjusts between 1.5 and 2.4 inches in diameter
9
Best for experimenting

Lovehoney Lifelike Lover Strap On Dildo Kit

Lifelike Lover Strap On Dildo Kit

Pros

  • Value for money
  • 3 dildos, 1 vibrating
  • Adjustable harness

Cons

  • Battery-powered

Planning to strap in for the long haul? Using the same old strap for a lifetime can get boring, but a little variety and choice can make experimentating way more fun for you both.

This strap on kit by Lovehoney features three dildos of different shapes and sizes — including a six-inch vibrating dildo, a ‘basic’ (read: non-vibrating) six-inch dildo, and an eight-incher for when you're feeling brave.

Obvs, all come with a strong suction cup base, and the harness is adjustable to suit all bodies. At a very fair price point for a whole bundle of goodies, this set might just be the gateway to a whole new world of pleasure. Only one way to find out, eh?

TypeStrap-on kit
SizeHarness fits up to 70 inch waist
In the boxHarness with 6 inch vibrating dildo with balls, a Basic slimline 6 inch anal dildo and an Ultra 8 inch realistic dildo, 3 O-rings, and a bullet vibrator
PowerBattery-powered bullet (2 x AAA batteries not included)
WaterproofNope
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Best hands-free vibrating strap on

Lovehoney Vibrating Strapless Strap-On

Vibrating Strapless Strap-On

Pros

  • 60 minute vibrator run time
  • Double ended
  • Flexible and posable

Cons

  • Shaft is on the larger side

Made from soft silicone, this Lovehoney strap is rippled, bendy, posable *and* comes with a removable bullet vibrator with three speeds and seven vibration patterns.

The textured shaft measures 6.5 inches in internal length, with a satisfying 4.5 inches of girth, levelled up by the textured design that hits all your intimate contours, offering a next-level internal massage while you thrust.

As if that wasn't enough, this strapless strap is also totally waterproof. Your shower sex game just got a serious upgrade.

TypeVibrating strapless strap-on
MaterialSilicone
In the boxStrapless dildo, charging cable, and removable bullet vibrator
Insertable length6.5 inches
Girth4.5 inches
PowerRechargeable
WaterproofSubmersible
11
Best thigh harness

Bondara Thigh High Faux Leather Strap-On Harness

Thigh High Faux Leather Strap-On Harness

Pros

  • Ideal for people with erectile and/or mobility issues

Cons

  • Strap only – you'll need to buy a dildo separately

If you have mobility issues, you like a good grinding session or you prefer to keep your lover's at arms length, you'll be pleased to hear that strap-ons don't always subscribe to the traditional model of a harness.

This one has been designed to strap directly to your thigh and works a treat in power play scenarios and for role play. Or you could buy two, strap one to each leg to double the pleasure!

Thanks to interchangeable rings you can choose your ideal cock size, but for the full effect might we suggest twinning with The Dragon's Dagger Monster Green Dildo?

TypeLeg strap-on harness
MaterialPU and leather
In the boxHarness and 5 O-rings (1.25-inch, 1.5-inch, 1.75-inch, 1.9-inches and 2-inch diameters)
SizeBetween 19 to 26 inches thigh circumference
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Best double-ended strap-on sex toy kit

Lovehoney Double-Ended Strap-On Dildo

Double-Ended Strap-On Dildo

Pros

  • Penetration for both partners
  • Splashproof
  • Remote controlled meaning vibes can be controlled by either partner

Cons

  • Battery-powered
  • Remote cannot get wet

This excellent curved silicone strap-on is double-ended, so you can penetrate your partner and yourself, all at the same time. If that's not enough to get you weak at the knees, both ends vibrate so you can climax in tandem. Double the fun.

It even comes with a handy remote, so you or your partner can control it without having to fiddle around with lubey buttons whenever you want to level up.

TypeRemote-controlled double-ended strap-on
MaterialSilicone
In the boxHarness, double ended strap on, and remote control
Insertable lengthGiver: 5 inches. Receiver: 7 inches.
Girth4.5 inch circumference
PowerBattery (2 x AAA batteries not included)
WaterproofToy is splashproof, but remote is not
13
Best overall for double penetration

Bondara Dual Penetration Vibrating Strap-On

Dual Penetration Vibrating Strap-On

Pros

  • Every kind of stimulation you could want
  • Great for anal lovers

Cons

  • Bullet is battery-powered
  • Some reviewers say the cock ring is a little tight

In pursuit of multiple orgasms? Bondara has concocted just the thing to get your head spinning. Attach this hefty number to your fave strap on (or real-life dong, if you have one) to deliver double penetration delight, all while the seven-speed bullet sends vibrations down the shaft and straight to your C-spot(s).

You’ll need a generous dose of lube with this one, so we’d recommend investing in an anal-specific water-based lube to make sure you stay slip ‘n sliding for longer, without harming the silicone.

Type7 Speed Vibrating Cock Ring With Clitoral Stimulating Bunny Ears
Insertable length6 Inches
MaterialSilicone
In the boxStrap-on and bullet vibrator
GirthCock ring: 0.95 Inches diameter. Dildo: 1.11 inch.
Power3x LR44 Batteries
WaterproofSplashproof
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Best for textured double penetration

Lovehoney Double Fun Vibrating Double Penetration Strap-On

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Pros

  • Beaded shaft for extra stimulation
  • Triple-function
  • Great for DP beginners

Cons

  • Battery-powered
  • Some find the cock ring to be a little tight

Looking to experiment with double penetration? This Lovehoney strap-on might just be for you.

With two cock rings — one to go around the shaft, and one to go over the balls — a bullet for clit stimulation, and a strap-on dildo, this toy offers triple the fun. The bullet boasts two vibration speeds and five patterns, and the dildo is beaded for comfort.

It may be battery-powered, but it packs a punch. Luckily, the dildo’s an accessible length and girth so not too intimidating for first-timers and pros alike — just remember to use plenty of water-based lube.

TypeVibrating anal cock ring strap-on for double penetration
MaterialSilicone
Insertable length6 inches
In the boxCock ring with anal dildo for double penetration, and removable bullet vibrator
GirthCock ring diameter: 1.57 inches maximum. Ball ring diameter: 1.96 inches maximum.
Power3 x LR44 batteries (included)
WaterproofSubmersble
15
Best penis extender strap

Lovehoney Hollow Vibrating Strap-On

Hollow Vibrating Strap-On

Pros

  • Vibrations for both partners
  • Remote controlled meaning vibes can be controlled by either partner

Cons

  • Battery-powered

Does your penis-having partner struggle with erectile dysfunction? Or perhaps you've always fantasised about experiencing an above average member? This realistic hollow strap-on will extend any shlong to a whopping eight inches.

Once slipping into the inviting canal the wearer gets to feel tingly vibes along their shaft, plus role play at being seriously well hung.

The external remote provides vibrations so whether you're receiving or you're the person giving, your vulva and vagina will benefit from the dual stimulation this strap has to offer.

Type8 inch vibrating hollow strap-on
MaterialPVC
In the boxHollow strap-on dildo, harness, and remote control
Insertable length8 inches
Internal length6 inches
Harness size38 inches
Power2 x AA batteries (not included)
Girth6.25 inches circumference
WaterproofSplashproof
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Lois Shearing is Cosmoplitan's Former Senior Sex and Relationship Writer. They have been writing about sex, sexuality, gender, politics, and relationships for almost ten years. Their writing on these topics has appeared in Mashable, The Independent, Metro, The Advocate, and Byline Times, among others. In 2021, they published their first book, Bi the Way with JKP. They are currently working on two other books, set to be published in 2024.  In a previous life, they worked as a content marketer and content writer for various tech start-ups. They continue to be interested in the tech sector and its impact on our lives, relationships, and work, with particular regard to the ways AI will shape our relationships in the future.  Outside of work, they are deeply passionate about queer community organising, and run the only support resource for bisexual survivors of sexual violence in the UK: the Bi Survivors Network.  You can find them on Instagram and X

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Honey is the Senior Sex and Relationships E-commerce Writer for Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health and Men’s Health. She covers shopping guides and reviews of the best sex toys; deals events — including Amazon Prime Day and Black Friday; and sex, dating, and LGBTQ+ trends.

Her journalism career started in 2020 when she started Sextras, a podcast and digital magazine about sex and relationships. Find Sextras on Spotify or Substack, where she writes and chats about everything from positive masculinity and how to practise sex magic, to why the latest kink or porn category is blowing up.

She has an MA in Magazine Journalism from City, University of London, and previously reported for HR magazine. Her features also appear in Glamour, Refinery29, The Independent, and more.

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