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On the days when you are tired but still down for a romp, a lying down sex position from the side might be exactly what you need. One of the most appealing factors is that these types of “lazy” or sideways sex positions are super easy—just scootch a little closer to your partner, strategically angle your bodies (see below for suggestions), and it’s on. But even if you’re fully caffeinated, side sex positions are still absolutely worth your while.
“Having sex on your side while lying down has many benefits,” says sexologist Marla Renee Stewart, MA, CSE, sexpert for Lovers sexual wellness brand and retailer. Not only is it generally comfy, it’s also more conducive to the kind of slow, ultra-bonding sex that allows you to get lost in each other and the sensations. “Having side-by-side sex allows you to be really close to your lover, which is an advantage for you if you’re tactile, but the touch also helps with emotional well-being and bonding.” Physical closeness begets emotional closeness.
Lying down sex positions are also pretty democratic. There’s not a clear dominant party, and they generally work for most people regardless of body type, physical ability, or energy level. “Lying down positions are really great if you have an injury or you are limited in your mobility. It’s also a great way to have sex if you’re tired and are unable to do more athletic sexual moves,” says Stewart.
Plus, when you’re lying down, you’ll usually have your hands free to roam wherever they need to go. “If you struggle with clitoral stimulation during sex, you can easily use a small bullet or vibrator, or a vibrating cock ring during penetrative sex that can help you accelerate to the orgasm you desire,” says Stewart.
Ready for some maximum orgasms with minimal effort? Take to your bed with these sexy and comfy side sex positions.
The Side Sex Position
The side sex position is a mashup of doggy and spooning, combining the cozy intimacy of spooning with the deep penetration of doggy. To do it, lie next to each other in a spooning position, then the receiver curls forward, bending their knees against their chest. Basically you’re in doggy style but on your side. The receiver has their hands free for touching themselves, or if they have a vulva, they can pop a bullet vibe on their clit and clamp their legs together to hold in place.
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Open Spoon
Add more orgasm-inducing focused stimulation to spooning by having the little spoon lift their upper leg and hook their foot back over the big spoon’s butt. Little spoon turns a bit to face upward so their legs are spread open, giving them much easier access to use a hand or toy.
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The Sleepy Reachover
If you’re looking for a non-penetrative option and/or you’re too lazy to be climbing all over each other, just lie side by side and use a hand or toy on each other. For more intimacy, you can turn and face each other, or you can just stay on your back, close your eyes, and focus on all the good things you’re doing to each other.
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Saucy Spoons
Lie down on your sides so you’re both facing the same direction. Push your butt toward them as they enter you from behind. Little spoon can hold onto big spoon’s hand for a guided reach around, showing exactly where and how they want to be touched. This position is perfect for lazy sex, and the fact that you’re so close increases the intimacy. (Feel free to tweak for anal penetration, too!)
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Reach for the Heavens
Missionary can feel tighter and better for both of you if the receiver presses their legs tightly together. It’s the smallest tweak ever, but it can make a huge difference. If the receiver has a vulva, they can grab on to the headboard and roll their hips so that their clit gets more contact with their partner’s penis or strap-on. The person on the top can take control with thrusts and/or the person on the bottom can rock their pelvis, so you’ll both get what you need.
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The Dirty Dangle
Harness the powers of a head rush as an orgasm intensifier. Start in missionary, then when the receiver is close to orgasm, inch toward the edge of the bed, so the receiver’s head, shoulders, and arms hang backward over the side. The blood will rush to their head, which can be pleasurable for some. If it’s not, stop immediately. Feeling lightheaded = not sexy.
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The Figure Eight
If you have a vulva and missionary doesn’t quite do it for you, orgasm-wise, switch it up a little with some pillows and different thrusting. The receiver lies on the floor/bed/surface face-up with a couple of pillows propping up their butt, knees half bent, and legs splayed wide. The giver enters from the top like in missionary, but instead of regular thrusting, they move and grind their hips with slow figure-eight motions. For people with vulvas, the slow-build and focused clit-attention can be more orgasmic than regular missionary.
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The Spider Web
Lie on your sides facing each other. Scissor your legs so you are super close and can go even deeper. Rather than typical in-and-out thrusting, this sexual web requires grinding, circular motions. Rake your nails down each other’s backs, add an booty squeeze for good measure.
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Electric Slide
The receiver lies down on the bed or floor on their stomach, with their legs straight and slightly apart. The giver sits right behind their partner’s butt with their legs in front of them and hands on either side of their body for support. Then the giver leans back at a 45-degree angle to the receiver’s body to enter. As the giver rocks forward and back, the receiver rests on their elbows and can squeeze their legs together for a tighter fit. Since the receiver is restricted from thrusting and grinding, they get to completely relinquish control and focus on their own pleasure.
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The Dragon
The receiver lies on their stomach with their arms raised above their head. With a pillow or two placed under their pubic bone, they spread their legs slightly. The penetrating partner lays their body over the receiver's to enter, mimicking the same position as the receiver. Instead of fast-from-behind thrusting, the receiver moves in a circular, swirling motion. In this position, they can explore the more neglected parts of the receiver’s body like their back and the base of their neck with their lips, tongue, and even teeth.
Side Wind
The receiver lies on their side and and raises their top leg, keeping their bottom leg straight on the bed. The penetrating partner straddles the receiver's bottom thigh and hugs their raised leg as the receiver rests their calf on their partner’s shoulder. Once they enter, have them wind and whirl their hips as they thrusts for maximum pleasure.
Tight Sqeeze
The receiver lies down on their stomach, keeping their legs straight and spreading them slightly. They rest their arms by their sides or stretch the out in front of them. The penetrating partner stretches their body over the receiver’s, resting on their elbows so they don’t place all their weight on their partner. They place their legs outside the receiver, and as they enter, the receiver closes their legs and crosses them at the ankles. Clenching their things can deepen penetration, while the penetrating partner reaches under the receiver to play with their breasts, or brush their lips against the receiver’s neck/earlobes.
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Bootyfull View
The penetrating partner sits up on the bed so their legs are extended horizontally toward the foot of the bed. The receiver straddles the penetrator facing their feet, then lowers themselves onto their penis or strap-on. The receiver can then extend their legs back so they’re almost behind the penetrator, relaxing their torso chest-down onto the bed. The receiver slides up and down, using the penetrator’s feet for leverage. This position allows for great control over speed, depth, and intensity of stimulation, not to mention an excellent view of the action for the penetrating partner, who gets a front-row seat.
Now and Zen
This pose provides a quiet moment in the middle of the mattress madness. Roll onto your sides, face-to-face, then intertwine your legs and press your chests against one another. Slowly build yourself back up to an even more incredible climax.
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The Linguini
The receiver lies on their side, putting a pillow under their head for extra support. The penetrating partner kneels directly behind the receiver’s butt, leaning slightly over their body. They should push one of their knees between the receiver’s legs, positioning their body so they can penetrate. They place one hand on the receiver’s back to help support themselves, while the receiver keeps their limbs relaxed. Having their thighs curved at that angle gives the penetrating partner deeper access to nuzzle the receiver’s breasts, or reach around and play with their clitoris.
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