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Even if you’re all about the clit stim, positions with deep penetration can take your relationship—and your orgasms—to new depths. “If you tend to be clit focused, there’s a whole smorgasbord of new pleasure zones to explore within the vagina,” says Jodie Milton, women’s sex and intimacy coach at Practical Intimacy. “Deep penetration positions are a great way to experience a different kind of sexual enjoyment.”
A well-placed penis or strap-on can stimulate extra-sensitive spots like the upper wall of the vagina, the A-spot (the anterior fornix erogenous zone) and the cervix. “For some, pressure against the cervix can lead to intense orgasmic response,” says Jess O’Reilly, PhD, sex expert at Astroglide. These orgasms—sometimes called blended orgasms, vaginal orgasms or G-spot orgasms (even though they’re all technically clitoral orgasms)—can feel fuller and more intense, as anyone who has used a really good rabbit vibrator can attest.
Deep penetration can also take you emotionally deeper with your partner. “There’s something particularly erotic about taking your lover all the way inside of you,” says Milton. “Letting someone in that physically deep requires trust, vulnerability, and deep surrender, which can lead to deeper emotional intimacy and connection between you, too.”
If an XL penis or strap-on is involved and/or you have endometriosis, an inverted uterus, or any other condition that makes deep penetration painful, you can still give deep penetration a (tentative) go. Pay attention to your body and wait to shift into deeper positions until you’re highly aroused, says O’Reilly. Go slowly and use plenty of lube. You can also create a physical buffer to reduce the depth of penetration. Try a product like a stopper ring or even a thick penis ring.
Ready to go deeper? Here are 2o deep sex positions for maximum connection and deeper orgasms.
The Speed Bump
How To Do It: The receiver lies on their stomach, draping themselves over a fitness ball. The giver enters from behind, either lying on their partner’s back or kneeling.
Pros: All the benefits of doggy style with a little extra bounce.
Cons: Balls do roll. If this feels iffy to you, press it against a bed so y’all can hang on.
Switch It Up: Try it with the receiver flipped over and their back on draped over the ball.
Make It Hotter: Harness the powers of the ball. Rock it back and forth or see if you can get a sexy undulation going—the ball will throw in a few moves of its own.
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Reverse Wheelbarrow
How To Do It: The receiver lies on their back. The giver lifts the receiver up by their butt and stands, holding the receiver’s hips to penetrate. The receiver holds themselves up on their hands and wraps their feet around the giver’s neck. It’s like wheelbarrow, but the receiver is facing up instead of down and their legs are up around their partner’s neck instead of on either side of their body.
Pros: The thrill of a challenge, plus extra-deep penetration.
Cons: If you’re the receiver, you can get a head rush. If that’s not a “pro” for you, proceed with caution.
Switch It Up: The receiver can lower themselves onto their elbows to make this a longer lasting position.
Make It Hotter: Deep penetration can mean anal sex too. If you want to take the A-train, this position works especially well for it. Make sure you use all the lube going in.
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The Titanic
How To Do It: Switch up the angle on your basic missionary by having the penetrating partner hold themselves up with straight arms. “Their back is extended—like a design on the bow of the front of a ship,” says Jeffcoat. The receiving partner lies on their back, knees bent and feet flat on the ground. The penetrating partner bends their knees and holds themselves up with their arms straight.
Pros: More eye contact and better stimulation of the upper wall of the vagina.
Cons: Might not give enough clit stim. The receiver can use a hand or toy for extra clit love.
Switch It Up: The receiver can thrust their hips up to the giver while the giver stays still.
Make It Hotter: Adjust this to your whims. If things get too deep, the receiver can bend their knees as a buffer. Not deep enough? Then have the receiver swing their legs over the penetrating partner’s shoulders
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Couch Worship
How To Do It: The receiver kneels in front of a consenting couch, with the top half of their body draped over the cushion. The penetrating partner kneels behind them for modified doggy.
Pros: The couch gives the receiver a soft place to hold onto to and a buffer for harder thrusting.
Cons: Your couch might not work for whatever reason—too hard, wrong height, etc. This can also work on coffee table.
Switch It Up: “The giving partner has their hands free to hold around the receiving partner's hips,” says Jeffcoat. If they want to hold a clit-sucking toy with those free hands, all the better.
Make It Hotter: This is BDSM-friendly. Add some bondage, spanking and/or forceful commands.
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The Sit and Get
How To Do It: The receiving partner lies back on the couch cushion while the penetrating partner kneels on the floor.
Pros: “The giving partner has access to the clitoris, breasts, and other sensitive areas,” says Jeffcoat.
Cons: Lacking in clit stim. Try a small vibrator.
Switch It Up: Blindfold the receiver to help focus their attention on every sensation.
Make It Hotter: To go deeper, the receiver can wrap their legs around their partner’s hips and pull them in deeper. Add a few consensual spankings if necessary
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The Flatiron
How To Do It: This is like a flattened version of doggy style. The receiver lies flat on their belly and the giver enters from behind, either vaginally or anally—up to you!
Pros: The Flatiron is an extra cozy position where you can feel connected without the potential for too much eye contact.
Cons: Not as optimal if you’re working with an extra small penis or strap-on. Try a pillow under the receiver’s hips.
Switch It Up: The closer the receiver’s legs are together, the tighter things will feel for both of you.
Make It Hotter: Prop a wand vibrator on a pillow under the receiver’s hips to ride the vibes.
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The Seashell
How To Do It: The receiver lies on their back then lifts their legs by their ears. The giver kneels, leaning over to enter.
Pros: The deepest penetration physically possible
Cons: This position can be deep-deep, as in too deep, so start slow.
Switch It Up: Try it with pegging.
Make It Hotter: The giver has easy access for kissing and sucking the receiver’s toes. Use this power for good.
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The Self Control
How To Do It: "Get a large dildo that attaches itself to your wall. Put a bunch of lube on it and have complete control of how deep and fast you’re penetrated,” says Niki Davis-Fainbloom, a sex educator and fetish expert. Stick the dildo on a wall and back onto it, à la doggy style.
Pros: No partner necessary and an excellent chance to experiment to discover what you like.
Cons: Lots of people will need more clit stim. Add a hand or toy and ride away.
Switch It Up: Go into a shower for more privacy. Stick in on the floor and squat over it.
Make It Hotter: Try it with a partner. “If you give your partner oral sex while riding the dildo, you may ride yourself to the moon and not return!” says Davis-Fainbloom.
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The Leapfrog
How To Do It: The receiver gets on all fours, props a few pillows under their chest, then lowers their chest to rest on the pillows, ala child’s pose in yoga. The giver kneels behind to enter.
Pros: “This allows you to both physically relax and emotionally open,” says Milton.
Cons: No eye contact. Stay connected with loving words, moans and/or dirty talk.
Switch It Up: You can also try this with the giver standing and the receiver scooted to the edge of the bed.
Make It Hotter: The receiver can get more by stimulation by putting a lube-y hand between their body and the pillow and humping their hand.
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The Cervical O
How To Do It: The receiver gets on their hands and knees in doggy style. The giver kneels to enter from behind.
Pros: Possibility of cervical orgasm. “It's best to warm up with some other sexual positions first and then ease into cervical penetration—which is actually just rubbing up against the cervix,” relationship expert Kim Anami previously told Cosmopolitan. “Even then, I suggest going slow and really opening and relaxing the cervix as you go.”
Cons: Not for Tinder hookups or makeup sex. “Because it's such an intense and vulnerable experience, it's not likely to happen during casual sex or if you aren't feeling close to your partner. You have to be in a place where you feel very open, safe, and relaxed.”
Switch It Up: If you want to try this solo, enlist the help of a longer toy with deep reach and lie on your back.
Make It Hotter: The giver can help the receiver relax—and be more receptive to an orgasm—by talking them through it. They can use words of love or filthiness—whatever gets you two going. Even better if they lean in close and whisper in the receiver’s ear.
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The Soup Spoon
How To Do It: One person lies on their side with the other behind them facing the same direction. The little spoon puts a pillow under their hips.
Pros: “Spooning is extra delicious because of the maximum skin contact. It can feel very intimate and can help create the surrender and relaxation necessary for deep penetration. And it’s super comfortable too,” says Milton.
Cons: Could have trouble getting the depth you want. Use a pillow for optimal angling.
Switch It Up: This works well for anal sex as well.
Make It Hotter: The little spoon can masturbate with a vibrator or hand the vibrator to the big spoon for a reach-around.d
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The Wide Cowgirl
How To Do It: The giver lies on their back. The receiver straddles their partner like cowgirl but widens their legs to take it even deeper. (Bonus: The wider stance adds more direct clit stim.)
Pros: “This one’s great, because you’re on top and in full control. Widen your legs for a deeper feel and grind your hips down as deep as you want to go,” says Milton.
Cons: Everyone’s hands are occupied so no bonus clit stim. Try a cock ring for hands-free stimulation.
Switch It Up: Experiment with grinding vs. thrusting.
Make It Hotter: The receiver can pump even harder by getting onto their feet into a squat.
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The Private Dancer
How To Do It: One person sits on a chair or the edge of the bed and the other straddles atop, facing them.
Pros: “Any position where the receiving partner is on top can work well for deeper penetration, as they can control the angle and rhythm,” says O'Reilly.
Cons: Receivers with a vulva will probably need to add some extra clit stim. An easy way to do that is by pressing a lubed-up hand between your bodies.
Switch It Up: Kick things off with an in-home lap dance. Start with grinding and remove layers of clothing as you go until you can’t take it anymore.
Make It Hotter: The person on top can work the lap dance angle by staying by donning some crotchless lingerie.
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The Lotus
How To Do It: The giver sits with their legs crossed. The receiver sits on the giver’s lap, facing them, and wraps their legs around the giver’s hips. Move together slowly and sensually as you gaze into each other’s eyes.
Pros: This is a classic Tantra position to enhance intimacy, and the deep penetration is an extra bonus.
Cons: The movement might be too gentle to be orgasmic. If so, use the position to connect, then move to something else.
Switch It Up: Connect further by placing your hands over each other’s hearts, gazing into each other’s eye and syncing your breathing.
Make It Hotter: If you’re working with two vulvas, you can add a double dildo for simultaneous penetration.
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The Happy Baby
How To Do It: This is just like the happy baby yoga pose, but with sex. The receiver lies on their back with their legs bent and holds their feet in their hands. The giver kneels over them to enter.
Pros: The receiver is spread wide open so this position accentuates the elements of surrender and submission.
Cons: Not a ton of inherent clit stim. The giver can slide their body upward so that their pubic bone slides over the vulva with each thrust.
Switch It Up: Add a cock ring to zhuzh it up.
Make It Hotter: If you want to make it a little more BDSM-y, the receiver can use a spreader bar to keep them exactly where the giver wants them. (As with any sex thing, this requires consent and pre-negotiated boundaries.)
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The Deep Impact
How To Do It: The receiver lies on their side and lifts one leg up. The giver straddles the receiver’s leg, entering from a kneeling position.
Pros: A whole new way of experiencing each other. And, if you’re working with a curved penis, this is a great way to embrace that curve.
Cons: Might not be enough clit stim. Use a hand or clit toy to enhance the stimulation.
Switch It Up: Shift your bodies so that the receiver is straddling the other leg. A lot of people with clits have a stronger sensation of one side.
Make It Hotter: Add in some CBD-based arousal oil. The giver fills their hand with lube and cups their partner’s vulva, adding a long smooth rub to every thrust.
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The Wheelbarrow
How To Do It: The receiver gets in the wheelbarrow position holding their weight with arms straight out to the floor while their partner holds up their legs and enters standing from behind.
Pros: This is about the adventure and bonding over a challenge.
Cons: Upper-arm strength needed. If the receiver can’t hold themselves up, they can lie face down with their hips at the edge of the bed while the giver lifts the receiver’s legs to get to perfect penetration height.
Switch It Up: The receiver can lie on the bed atop a lie-on vibrator for more stimulation.
Make It Hotter: It’s okay to be weird and silly during sex. Can you walk to the bedroom in the wheelbarrow? Hell, give it try. Maybe this is your new form of sex transportation.
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Rolling in the Deep
How To Do It: Assume the missionary position with a pillow or two propped under the receiver’s hips. The receiver lifts their legs straight up and over their partner’s shoulders. The pillow will take this classic position to a much deeper place.
Pros: This little tweak can make a huge difference in how missionary feels to both of you.
Cons: A sex wedge will give you more reliable support but they can be spendy. See what you can do with regular ol’ non-sex pillows.
Switch It Up: Try more pillows in different spots to explore variations.
Make It Hotter: If the giver holds onto the receiver’s legs and pushes them back toward their head (only slightly, the receiver is not made of rubber), they’ll hit spots deep on the top of the vaginal wall that’ll feel so good.
The Bitilasana, Baby
How To Do It: The receiver gets on all fours doggy-style, but exaggerates the arch of their back so their hips are tipped up.
Pros: Bitilasana (aka, the cow position in yoga) is not only an excellent back stretcher, but far more importantly, it’s the surest way to get the giver all the way inside.
Cons: Can be hard on the knees. Pop a couple pillows under the knees and you’re good to go.
Switch It Up: To switch the sensations, the receiver can switch from arching their back to curving it down, or for yogis, Marjaryasana, the cat pose.
Make It Hotter: The receiver can get an even deeper feel by pushing their body back with their hands to take the giver in further or they can rotate their hips to play with the angle.
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The Extra Mile
How To Do It: The receiver lies back on the couch with their hips over the arm of the couch to angle their hips higher. The giver stands to enter, holding on to the receiver’s legs.
Pros: Deep penetration, obviously, plus the giver gets to watch themselves sliding in.
Cons: Sex + furniture = messy. Throw down a couple towels or blankets beforehand.
Switch It Up: Romance it up by gazing at each other and telling each other how amazing it all feels.
Make It Hotter: Want to try it anally? The receiver just flips over, butt in the air, and ready to go.
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