26 Wedding Night Sex Positions to Try With Your New Spouse (!!)
You'll never forget your first night as newlyweds. Why not make it extra-memorable? 🔥
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Your wedding day is about celebrating your marriage with friends and family. But your wedding night? That’s just about you and that sexy, new, lawfully wedded spouse of yours. Enter: This giant list of wedding night sex positions—poses and tips to ensure your first night as a married couple is the perfect start to the rest of your very sexy life together.
“Some people get caught up and forget that the wedding is about their union with their life partner. Wedding night sex is an important part of it. It shows that you prioritize each other’s pleasure and sexual connection,” says sex and relationship expert Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, PhD, aka Dr. Tara, ambassador for intimates brand Knix.
Of course, nothing is mandatory. “A lot of couples actually don’t have sex on their wedding night,” says Lyndsey Murray, an AASECT certified sex therapist at Relationship Matters Therapy. “It says nothing problematic about your relationship.” You might be extremely exhausted after your wedding day, and that’s okay. Wake up early and do it the next morning! Or sleep way in, order room service, then do it. Or wait until your honeymoon. Or until you’re back home in your own damn bed. There is no wrong way to have sex if everyone involved is a consenting adult, tyvm.
In the event that all that romantic energy infuses you and your partner with a load of adrenaline and you do want to get down post-nuptials, it’s the perfect night to try something new—maybe a new position, toy, lube, or role play scenario, says Jess O’Reilly, PhD, ASTROGLIDE’s resident sexologist. Maybe you plan in advance and come up with an elaborate dungeon scenario. Maybe you have the most romantic sex you’ve ever had. Maybe it’s your first time ever! (Exciting!)
Whatever your situation, if you take time to celebrate your connection (however that looks like) and your amazing luck/wisdom in choosing each other, you’re kicking off your marriage in the best possible way.
So * tapping champagne glass *…we’ve ignored your wedding registry (sry) and gifted you these 26 wedding night sex positions. You may now kiss!
The Yab Yum
How to Do It: One person sits on the other's lap, facing them. Put your hand over each other’s hearts, stare into each other’s eyes, and sync your breathing.
Pros: This is an ancient Tantric position. If the two of you lean spiritual, and you're looking to connect deeply by aligning your sexual energies through meditation, this is perfect for you. “Weddings can be so frantic and busy, so couples should spend some time recalibrating their energies, winding down, and reconnecting,” Suwinyattichaiporn says.
Cons: This one can feel like too much eye contact for some people. If you don’t want to stare that much (so fair), close your eyes and just listen to your breathing and feel your partner’s heart beating under your palm.
Switch It Up: “Try coupling this with a guided sexual meditation track to have a more focused and pleasurable time,” Suwinyattichaiporn says.
Make It Hotter: Add lingum (penis) and/or yoni (vulva) massages. Use a high-quality lube and stroke each other slowly and mindfully.
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The Balcony Bend-over
How to Do It: If you're staying in a hotel room with a balcony, take advantage of the fresh air with the balcony bend-over position, says Suwinyattichaiporn. The receiver bends over the balcony wall, the giver stands behind them to enter.
Pros: “This is especially perfect for those who have an exhibition kink,” she says.
Cons: Not as great if you definitely do not have an exhibition kink. You could start with some general balcony PDA, then take it inside for the more naked parts.
Switch It Up: For a milder version, try it over a table or desk inside the room and open the curtains a bit. You can see out, others can’t see in. (Leave your room lights off, or others will be seeing.)
Make It Hotter: Try a fully-clothed version on the balcony. One of you dons a wearable vibe, the other has the remote.
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The Shower Standing Doggy
How to Do It: The receiver stands and leans over, holding onto something sturdy (important!). The giver stands behind them to enter.
Pros: Multi-tasking! “Maybe you got sweaty during the wedding and want to shower and get comfy as soon as you’re back in the bedroom. It doesn’t mean it can’t be erotic and connecting,” says Suwinyattichaiporn.
Cons: Despite the presence of water, shower sex doesn't automatically make the receiver wet. “Use silicone-based lube,” she says. “It will make the sliding-in much more pleasurable because water can actually create friction.”
Switch It Up: For a non-penetrative option, try mutual hand jobs.
Make It Hotter: Put that detachable shower head to work and direct the spray between your legs.
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The Equal Partnership
How to Do It: Marriage is about cooperation. Get some practice in with this version of cowgirl, where you both take turns controlling the movement. The person on top can grind or thrust, and the person on the bottom can lift their hips and thrust up. One person lies on their back with their legs spread and knees bent. The other sits on their hips to straddle them.
Pros: When both of you control the motion, both of you get more of what you like.
Cons: Access to clitoral stimulation isn't super easy with this one. Angling for more clit contact can help, or bust out a hand or sex toy.
Switch It Up: This also works as a mutual masturbation position. Just slide away from each other enough to get your hands in there and you can watch each other stroke.
Make It Hotter: Add a dollop of arousal lube to boost the sensations.
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The Emotional Support Spouse
How to Do It: Get super cozy and close with your new spouse by having one of you lie on top of the other. (We did say super cozy.) The receiver lies on their stomach with their hips propped over a sex wedge or pillow, and the giver penetrates from behind.
Pros: One of the perks of marriage is having someone to snuggle with whenever you want. For the person on the bottom, it’s like having a human weighted blanket. Plus, orgasms for all!
Cons: No direct clit stim. The receiver can slide their hand down to hump it, or…
Switch It Up: You can prop a sex toy against the pillow…
Make It Hotter: …Or even better, get a sex pillow with a built-in spot to hold a toy. Registry gift!?
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With This Ring I Thee Wed
How to Do It: Bind your marriage in a more private ring ceremony by cuffing your wrists together. Face each other and run your bound hands all over each other’s bodies.
Pros: You’ll be super focused on each other because this is like a kinky team-building exercise.
Cons: Metal cuffs are the traditional choice, but not the comfiest. Chose something softer and more forgiving.
Switch It Up: Have one person guide the movements, while the other must obey.
Make It Hotter: Lean harder into the BDSM element by cuffing just one person’s wrists together while the other person controls what’s happening.
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Down on One Knee
How to Do It: One partner leans over the bed, the other stands to enter from behind. The receiving partner puts one of their knees up on the bed to receive deep penetration.
Pros: Incredibly deep penetration.
Cons: Not super romantic. Add some affectionate touches. The giver can stroke the receiver’s legs, back, and thighs. The receiver can hook a foot around their partner’s leg.
Switch It Up: The giver can lift their partner’s legs off the bed for deeper penetration/a dramatic flair.
Make It Hotter: The penetrating partner can start the marriage off on an optimal note by pressing a small, easy-to-hold vibe to their lawfully wedded partner’s clit.
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To Have and To Hold
How to Do It: Not ready for (or interested in) penetrative sex? No problem. Enter: A deliciously slow 69 sesh. One of you lies on your back, head propped on a pillow, while the other lies on top, facing their partner's feet. Angle your groins toward each other’s mouths for mutual oral.
Pros: Both partners receive pleasure at the same time. " It’s also a way to have sex without the focus being on intercourse!” says Murray.
Cons: It might be hard to do the multitasking of giving and getting. If that’s you, try taking turns.
Switch It Up: Roll over and try it side by side.
Make It Hotter: Festoon each other with some edible lube for bonus festivity.
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Say Yes (Yes, Yes)
How to Do It: Sit back in a chair and let your lover touch you exactly where and how you want them to. You can tell them verbally, use gestures, and/or hand them a toy and guide their hand to show them what you like.
Pros: “This position is great because you can choose whichever angle you'd like. Whether you are sitting up straight or leaning way back in the chair, it’s going to change the angle and sensation, so there’s a ton of variety with it!” says Murray.
Cons: If you’re just starting out sexually together, it can feel awkward to communicate what you need. But, if you remember that your partner wants to watch you melt under their touch, it’ll get a lot easier.
Switch It Up: Return the favor and swap places!
Make It Hotter: Try this is on the couch, in a bed, in the shower—wherever the mood strikes you.
Lovers in Arms
How to Do It: Feel all the love by lying on your sides facing each other. The receiver wraps their leg around their newly betrothed. “This position creates an intimate connection through full-body touch and eye contact,” says O’Reilly.
Pros: “A shallower reach allows for internal stimulation and the side-by-side set-up means your hands are free to wander and fondle as desired,” she says.
Cons: Not great for fast thrusting. The giver can raise their body so that they’re resting on their elbow for more leverage.
Switch It Up: “It is ideal for transitioning between positions without missing a beat,” she says.
Make It Hotter: If one of those free hands wants to grab a clit toy, go right ahead.
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The Honeymoon Suite
How to Do It: “If you’re splurging on the honeymoon suite, it’s likely to come with an oversized bathroom and soaker tub, so take advantage of the expanded digs. Have one partner sit on the edge of the tub while the other goes down on them while seated in the bubble bath,” says O’Reilly.
Pros: Romanic and luxurious, plus orgasms.
Cons: Water-based lubes will rinse off, so use a high quality silicone lube.
Switch It Up: Instead of oral, try it with a hand job.
Make It Hotter: Add your favorite waterproof toy, O'Reilly suggests.
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This Song Is For You
How to Do It: You can do way more with your wedding song than dance. “Take the intimacy of spooning to another level with a vibrating toy that’s music-activated, so it will vibe to ‘your song,’” says O’Reilly. Assume the spooning position, fire up your wedding song and submit to the vibrations.
Pros: Adding sound to vibration adds a whole new dimension.Cons: Not all sound-activated vibrators will give you the kind of vibrations that you prefer. Research before getting one to make sure you’ll like it.
Switch It Up: You can use your voice on many music-activated vibrators. Try moans, sexy talk, or just random humming and see what happens.
Make It Hotter: For bonus horniness, you could wear one during your wedding reception...
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Here Comes the Bride
How to Do It: Lie side-by-side in the spooning position. Before you go to sleep, get yourselves semi-close to orgasm, then stop. Let yourselves fall asleep in a haze of arousal. Whenever one of you wakes up, try a few slow thrusts and a short sleepy make out session.
Pros: A whole night of sleepy, sexy connection. And when you wake up, you’ll be so very ready for your partner.
Cons: Getting too close to orgasm with no resolution is frustrating. Make sure get find a zone where you’re turned on, but not to the point-of-no-return.
Switch It Up: If you’re really sleepy (weddings are busy), a possessive hand on the other person’s nether regions as you sleep can be hot too.
Make It Hotter: If you have pre-consent, try it with sporadic night time oral. Or wake up your partner with them in your mouth. (Again, consent is key here.)
The Shotgun Ceremony
How to Do It: Can’t wait? Pull your new spouse into a private room at the reception for a quickie. Lift up your gown or pull down your pants and point their head to your crotch for a quick oral session.
Pros: Chance of danger = hot.
Cons: Chance of danger = also scary. Lock the door!
Switch It Up: Pull your spouse into the room and unzip them.
Make It Hotter: If you’re looking for a quicker quickie, hand them a small quiet toy.
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You May Kiss the Bride
How to Do It: Devote your night to kissing. Explore your partner everywhere with your mouth. Kiss your newly betrothed deeply on the mouth, suck gently on their earlobes, lick and kiss your way around their nipples and down their chest...
Pros: Super intimate and a sexy way to show your partner how into them you are.
Cons: By the time you get to their privates, you might be experiencing dry mouth. Keep a glass of water (or champagne/sparkling juice, bc wedding) on the nightstand.
Switch It Up: Let them return the favor and ravish you with their mouth and hands.
Make It Hotter: Show them how much you love them by looking deeply into their eyes as your take their penis/vulva into your mouth. Moan as you first taste them.
Couple of the Year
How to Do It: One person sits with their legs bent comfortably in front of them. The other sits on their partner’s lap. Wrap your arms around each other and pull each other close.
Pros: Maximum intimacy. “This allows you to line your torsos up and be able to get your arms around each other, kiss, and embrace for a close and cuddly experience,” says Marla Renee Stewart, MA, sexpert for Lovers sexual wellness brand and retailer.
Cons: It’s not great for hard and fast thrusting. If you need that for orgasm, add toys or switch to something else for a big finish.
Switch It Up: Try a double-headed dildo to heighten vulva-to-vulva sex if you’re into penetration.
Make It Hotter: “To maximize this position, use your auditory feedback such as moans and heavy breathing in their ear to heighten arousal,” says Stewart.
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Damn, The Dry Cleaning Bill
How to Do It: Keep your clothes all the way on and do all the things you normally would, just in "costume," technically.
Pros: It’s passionate! When you arrive at your post-nuptial bedroom, if the energy is high and you're still in party mode, you can ride the wave of energy right into an adventurous sexual encounter, says Zoë Kors, resident sex and intimacy coach at Coral.
Cons: Your clothes will probably get dirty. If this is a no-go for you (we get it, wedding dresses are $$$!), have a make out session in your wedding gear, then undress as you get deeper into it.
Switch It Up: Make a private wedding album with a photo session of yourselves half in your wedding clothes, half off.
Make It Hotter: If quickies are too, well, quick to be orgasmic for you, bring in a powerful toy that will put you up to speed.
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The Plan B
How to Do It: Some women get the surprise wedding gift of discovering that they have vaginismus. “I see many folks experience excruciating pain with intercourse on their honeymoon," says Heather Jeffcoat, DPT, who works with folks who have painful sex. To help, have the giver lie on their back and the receiver straddle their partner to slowly lower themselves onto the penis or strap-on
Pros: Less opportunity for pain. “Controlling the speed of insertion and depth of penetration are key when vaginismus is suspected or it’s otherwise not going quite as planned,” she says. Even if there’s no pain, being on top allows the receiver to take charge.
Cons: In some cases, no matter what precautions you take, there still might be pain. Switch to oral or masturbation, try another time, and/or make an ob-gyn appointment to talk about long-term solutions.
Switch It Up: Instead of an up-and-down motion, try grinding.
Make It Hotter: A CBD lube can help things flow more smoothly.
The Hope Chest
How to Do It: Prepare a special sex box for the wedding. Fill it with things that make you feel sexy and empowered—,maybe a pair of handcuffs, special lube, a vibrator, the works. On your big night, cuff your new spouse’s wrists behind their neck (comfortably, like when they’re resting their head on their hands) and slowly lube up the area(s) you’re gonna play with.
Pros: Having a special box of fun things to try makes a special night feel even more special.
Cons: Can get pricey, fast. Try DIY substitutions.
Switch It Up: You can use a vibe for clits, perineums, penis shafts, around the anus, asses...wherever you’d like!
Make It Hotter: Don’t go right in—tease them a little 'til they really, really want it.
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The First-Time, Part II
How to Do It: If this isn't the first time for you, pretend! Act like you've never been touched by another person. Slowly start touching each other, paying attention to each move. Kiss your partner’s neck, whisper in their ear, suck on their earlobe. Finish by facing each other on your sides for eye-gazing, soulful, slow sex.
Pros: If you go all in, it’ll fake out your brain and you’ll really notice every touch. Every progression will feel like the first time, trust.
Cons: It might take a while to calm down after the wedding. Put on a sexy playlist, light some candles, and ease into it.
Switch It Up: Have one person be the toucher, exploring the other’s body while the other person just lies back and feels.
Make It Hotter: Wearing blindfolds can help you focus even more on every delicious sensation.
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