There are many ways to Valentine’s Day. For some, it’s a high-octane, candlelit evening of capital-R Romance. For others, it’s an excuse to spend a cozy night in or celebrate with your besties. And for the horny and proud among us, it’s about sex. While the Hallmark-ification of the holiday tends to give V-Day a somewhat PG image that’s more about love than lust, don’t let that fool you. Valentine’s Day is a perfect excuse to fulfill your sexiest fantasies. If there’s something you’ve been waiting to try in bed (werewolf role play, anyone?) consider this your flashing XXX sign to go for it this V-Day.
Whether you’re an experienced kinkster or stick to more vanilla sex fantasies, suddenly pitching a new one to a partner can feel intimidating—especially if you’ve kind of settled into a standard sex routine. But as we all know, novelty is the key to keeping the spark alive, and Valentine’s Day presents the perfect opportunity to shake things up—whether that involves bringing a new toy into the bedroom, trying out a new position, experimenting with something kinky, having a spicy movie night, or otherwise tapping into your sexiest self. Oh, and by the way, you absolutely do not need to have a partner to fulfill your Valentine’s Day sex fantasies this year. All you need is yourself, a trusty vibrator or two, and, of course, a whole lotta self-love.
If you’re looking for some inspo on how to make this V-Day your sexiest one yet, look no further than this list of sexy valentine’s day ideas that may just leave you blushing. And if you still need more convincing, here are five reasons to get it on this Valentine’s Day (and honestly, every Valentine’s Day).
1. Lingerie
Not that anyone needs an excuse to dress up to get undressed, but truly, when was the last time you broke out your favorite sexy little set? Use the holiday as the perfect excuse to treat yourself to some new Valentine’s Day lingerie—or hint to your partner that it would make a great gift (ahem, for you both).
2. Sex Toys
Again, not that you need a reason to break out your vibes, but Valentine’s Day is certainly a great opportunity to bring a little extra buzz to the bedroom. Invest in a new wand or clit-sucking vibe as a V-Day gift to yourself, or surprise your partner with a brand new couples vibe for you to try out together.
3. Valentine’s Day Dinner Dates Are Overrated
This is not coming from a V-Day hater perspective, btw! This is coming purely from a place of: V-Day reservations can be hard to get, pre-fixe menus are a scam, and being squeezed into a restaurant so packed you can literally smell the couple seated next to you is the opposite of fun and romantic. You know what is fun and romantic? Staying in and having sex!
4. It Counts as a Gift!
Valentine’s Day gifting can be tricky. What do they want? What do they like? Wait, are you even doing gifts this year? Hm, you probably should’ve discussed that, but it’s too late now! This V-Day, simply give them the gift of sex. (Unless it’s a threesome.)
5. It’s Fun to Have a Sexy Little Secret
When your coworkers ask what you’re doing for Valentine’s Day, you can have the secret satisfaction of saying, “Oh, idk, nothing special,” while knowing that actually you’ll be getting your damn back blown out. Or, honestly, just tell them that. That could be fun too!
