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If you think working at Cosmo is all fun, games, and dildo deliveries...then you are correct. As the OG sexual-empowerment magazine, we field hundreds of pitches about new sex toys, products, services, and change-makers that are enhancing pleasure for women—but we know a true winner when we see one. Or 33. Behold, our ultimate picks.
The Best Sex Toys for Solo Masturbation, Couple Play, Penises, Vulvas, and Travel
These orgasmic gadgets do all the work so you and your partner can just do the play.
Think about standing next to a loudspeaker at a club: The pulsing, humming bass penetrates to your very core. This stimulator uses the same sensation to massage your clitoris for a fast, deep orgasm that will blow your mind, not ears.
Many people hate insertable couples vibes because they’re uncomfortable, so the We-Vibe Touch solves for that. It’s thin enough to fit between your bodies without being inserted, and its scooped tip rests nicely against your vulva.
Masturbation sleeves are nothing new, but this one has an open end so you can get in on the action with your mouth too. For the ultimate job, stretch it out to fit the length of their erect penis, then work it over them as you lick their tip.
Cult faves the Magic Wand Original and its younger sis, the Magic Wand Rechargeable, finally have fresh competition. Le Wand is a more powerful, rechargeable massager with additional intensity levels and chic metallic accents.
Sure, this little guy comes with a fugly battery pack attached to it, but the power is worth it. Just a heads-up that you’ll need to use two hands—one to hold the egg-shaped bullet and the other to adjust the intensity.
Looks like a high-end makeup compact, magnetically closes shut like an AirPods case, suctions your sensitive spots with 11 settings like a freaking pro...yep, you can (and will) sneak this tiny toy anywhere and everywhere.
Quiet Vibrators That Won’t Make a Sound
Sex educator Cameron Glover road tested vibes that claim to be hush-hush and found the best ones.
“It’s small, compact, and much more powerful than you’d think. It also fits perfectly over the entire vulva (or most of it) for a super-nice sensation. That said, it’s not all that quiet, even on its lowest setting.”
“It was fun to masturbate with. You squeeze the sides to activate the intensity of the vibrations, which were strong and consistent and got me off really well. But it did have a pretty loud, rumbly motor. I’d probably use it with some music playing.”
“It’s the most silent of the bunch and was almost completely muffled from first placement. Add my duvet and blanket on top, and it was really quiet. The shape makes it easy for pinpointing direct stim on your nipples or clitoris, but it’s scented—and while it’s not overpowering, I prefer unscented sex toys so they don’t throw off my vulva’s sensitivity.”
“This was my favorite, hands down. It has a more obvious ‘vibrator’ sound, but it’s not so loud that it can’t be muffled. The softness of the silicone and the ridges make it feel different, and it does surprisingly well holding itself in place so you can switch up positions.”
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A small bit of it on your clit or nipples goes a long way (like all the way through foreplay). It’s the perk-up your parts need pre-touching.
Munchies
1906 High Love Dark Milk Chocolate Gems
1906newhighs.com
$14 for 6 pieces
This is the first of two cannabis-related products we’re honoring, because weed is truly having a moment in the sexual-wellness world. These chocolates contain a strain called Blue Dream and can make you way hornier than usual, thanks to five libido-boosting plant ingredients.
1906newhighs.com for dispensary locations (only in Colorado)
Foria Pleasure THC Arousal Lube (only in California and Colorado). THC Lube
This cannabis-containing magic oil helps elevate sensations and/or reduce pain during sex. Reviewers freak out over how intensely it does both (while haters are just mad they can’t get their hands on it yet).
Consider this homework for every woman, regardless of your age—but especially if you feel confused about your sexual desires or “broken” because climaxing isn’t a cinch for you.
Sex dice are a fun, kitschy way to get down, but these have way more positions (that you’d actually want to do) than your average pair and feature handy illustrations so you can nail each one you land on.
Warming lubes can be nasty-sticky, but this one is stroke-friendly and latex compatible and will make the action fuego.
This plant-based formula is enriched with vitamin-E oil (which offers extra hydration) and also steers clear of any harmful chemicals, artificial flavors, or parabens.
It’s water-based, hypoallergenic, great for sensitive skin, affordable, and the number one best-selling lube on Amazon. Any further questions?
The ribbed rubber will make you wish your partner’s penis had such feel-good indents...but consider this a perk of having safe sex.
These polyisoprine condoms come in a fun variety pack (Extra Lube! Extra Studded!) so you never have to feel shafted (ha) by your latex-free options.
The flavor is super lickable, plus it’s gluten-free and vegan-friendly. (It comes in chocolate too!)
Classes and Services That’ll Up Your Sex Game
These treatments, classes, and workshops are a wet dream come true.
The Hormone Balancer
The Ladies’ Room treatment @ Wthn in NYC, from $65, wthn.com
If you don’t mind tiny needles in your legs, torso, and head, this acupuncture treatment can give your libido a natural bump up by stimulating specific points in connective tissue, which can alter your brain chemistry (in a good way). Oh, and the Zen-y, plant-filled studio is total Insta-bait.
The Group Chat
Touchpoint podcast, free, lovetouchpoint.com
Tune in to hear the most honest and juicy town hall–style convos about sex, love, and identity among a group of total strangers (of all ages). Sessions are recorded live for your listening pleasure. And yes, all the stories are real.
THE ORGASM WORKSHOP
Ladies Come First 101 and 102 @ The V. Club, two 2-hour sessions, $79 each, thevclub.com
During this crash course in anatomy and pleasure (available online or in person in NYC), you’ll get schooled on next-level pelvic-floor-strengthening techniques and sexual-wellness tips to up your odds of getting off.
THE SEXPERT WHO’S A DM AWAY
Juicebox app, $24/week for unlimited chat, App Store
Like having a sex-and-relationship coach in your phone’s Favorites, this app lets you message with a pro in a private chat whenever (and wherever) you want to get your sex and intimacy questions answered.
THE VAGINA SHOT
The O-Shot @ VSPOT Medi Spa in NYC, $2,500, vspotmedispa.com
A vampire facial but for your vagina. In this procedure, a doc extracts platelet-rich plasma from your own blood sample, then injects it into your vag and clitoris to help generate healthier and more functional tissue. The benefits? Patients report enhanced libido and more frequent, longer Os.
THE KINKY DEMOS
Babeland workshops, free to $99, various Babeland locations in NYC and Seattle
Get an A+ in BDSM, sensual massage, self-love, oral, and more with in-person guidance from an educator at this sex-toy retailer.
Researchers, Educators, Comedians, and Scientists at the Forefront of Sex Education
Meet the badass women paving the way for your pleasure.
THE ORGASM TRACKER
Nicole Prause, PhD
A neuroscientist and the founder of Liberos, a sex research and biotech company, Prause—who’s been looking into orgasmic meditation and high-arousal states—knows exactly how sex can improve your daily life. “It can be helpful for sleep, managing stress, and increasing focus,” she says.
THE MILLENNIAL CARRIE BRADSHAW
Karley Sciortino
As a leader of the shame-free female sexuality movement, Sciortino has had a “happy ending” massage on her Viceland show Slutever, waxed poetic about her masturbation habits in her book by the same name, and navigated identity and sexuality as a writer on Starz’s Now Apocalypse (premiered March 10). “My goal is to humanize sexual outliers and instigate frank conversations,” she says. “A great gateway is being open about my own sex life and slutty history.”
THE COMEDIAN WHO’S HONEST ABOUT OS
Remy Kassimir
At 28 years old, Kassimir had never experienced an orgasm, so she decided to talk about it—to hundreds of people. Since launching her podcast, How Cum, in late 2017, she’s become a voice for those with less sexual experience. “I was so nervous about being a weirdo, and I thought it was going to expose me,” she says. “But the response has been overwhelming. A lot of people are saying, ‘I thought I was alone until you said something.’” Listen in, and you may feel a comforting sense of camaraderie too.
THE SEX-TOY TRANSFORMERS
Alexandra Fine and Janet Lieberman
These two are making next-level, all-inclusive sex toys at their company, Dame Products. In 2015, they wowed with the hands-free Eva, a vibe with wings that tuck under the labia so it stays in place during partnered sex. This year, they launched Pillo, a soft wedge that lifts your hips for easier angling. “Women have been less encouraged to own their sexual satisfaction. We want to be a part of shifting that,” says Fine.
THE NAUGHTY PROFESSOR
Andrea Barrica
She founded O.school, a free online sex-ed platform that publishes must-watch video and article explainers. “I love being that nonjudgmental friend for millions of people,” Barrica says.
THE RESEARCH RENEGADE
Debby Herbenick, PhD
Think of Herbenick as the sexiest scientist ever. As a professor at Indiana University School of Public Health, she has studied women’s thoughts about their own vaginas as well as the surprising things that can get us off. “I try to give voice to the full range of ways that women experience sex,” she says.
