Whether you've recently graduated from the talking stage (congrats!) or you’ve already celebrated multiple anniversaries, being consistently curious about your partner is crucial to keeping the spark alive. I know you might think you know everything about them, but people change! The catch, of course, is that it’s not always easy to come up with spicy questions to ask your boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, or partner—especially when you’re on the spot. But hi, that’s where we come in!

Navigating what to ask your partner can sometimes feel daunting. You've heard all their stories and shared every secret already, right? Beg to differ, babes. The right questions can open up new dialogues and bring a playful, intimate, or even sexy vibe to your conversations. Whether you're at a romantic dinner, having a cozy lil at-home date, or in the middle of a flirty text exchange, having a go-to list of questions can turn any moment into an opportunity for closeness.

That’s why we’ve curated a diverse list of Qs to ask your SO that range from a touch naughty to downright dirty. You’ll obviously want to select questions that fit the mood and where you’re at in your relationship, and if someone doesn’t want to answer something, don’t push them! The key here is fun and consensual communication that’ll turn up the heat and lead to deeper, more meaningful convos. So whether you’re looking to explore each other's secret fantasies, get in the mood, or simply discover new dimensions of your relationship, you’re in the right place. Turn down your AC and keep reading for the best spicy questions to ask your partner. Warning: It’s about to get scorching up in here.

Mildly Spicy Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend

  1. What was your first impression of me?
  2. If you could take me on a date anywhere in the world, where would it be?
  3. Where was your first kiss?
  4. If we could spend a day doing anything you want, what would it be?
  5. What song always makes you think of me?
  6. What movie or TV show couple do you think we’ve got similar chemistry to?
  7. What’s your favorite spicy memory of us so far?
  8. What's something small I do that makes you blush?
  9. What's something flirty you've wanted to text me but hesitated?
  10. If we were in a movie right now, what would our perfect kiss scene look like?
  11. What's your favorite outfit on me?
  12. What’s something you’re dying to try with me?
  13. What do you find most attractive about me?
  14. How do you feel about public displays of affection?
  15. What's a dream you have that you haven’t told me about yet?
  16. How do you feel about taking a spontaneous trip together?
  17. What's the most romantic thing you’ve ever done or want to do?
  18. What does a sexy day look like to you?
  19. When did you know you were interested in me?
  20. What’s your guilty pleasure when it comes to romance?

Medium-Spicy Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend

  1. What’s one thing that I do that turns you on without fail?
  2. What’s your favorite part of my body?
  3. How do you feel when you see me after we've been apart for a while?
  4. What’s a fantasy you’d like to explore together?
  5. What do you think about when you think about me in a romantic way?
  6. What kind of touch do you like best from me?
  7. If you could whisper something to me right now, what would it be?
  8. What's the most exciting thing about being in a relationship?
  9. When do you feel most loved by me?
  10. What's something adventurous you want to do with me?

Spicy Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend

  1. What’s your favorite way to show affection ~in the bedroom~?
  2. How do you feel about role-playing?
  3. What’s the naughtiest thought you’ve had about me?
  4. What’s one thing in the bedroom you’d like more of?
  5. What’s your biggest turn-on about our relationship?
  6. Have you ever dreamed about me in a naughty way?
  7. What kind of foreplay do you enjoy the most?
  8. What’s a sexy scene from a movie that you want to recreate with me?
  9. If you could have me wear anything, what would it be?
  10. What do you think about dirty talk?

Extra Spicy Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend

  1. What’s the wildest place you’ve ever wanted to have sex?
  2. Have you ever thought about us in a threesome?
  3. What’s the most daring thing you’ve ever done sexually?
  4. What boundaries are you curious about exploring?
  5. What’s something kinky you’d like to try?
  6. How do you feel about using toys in the bedroom?
  7. What’s your most vivid fantasy involving us?
  8. What’s the most risqué thing you want to say to me?
  9. Have you ever wanted to be watched while being intimate?
  10. What’s the most outrageous role-play scenario you can think of?