12 Lesbian Sex Positions to Try Tonight
Allow these moves to inspire your next sapphic sexperience.
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The great thing about lesbian sex is that there are no specific “lesbian sex positions.” Sure, there’s scissoring, but when you’re free of the heteronormative constructs of what sex is “supposed” to look like, a whole new world of sexual possibilities opens up.
“Lesbian sex is special because it isn’t defined by one ‘main event.’ It’s defined by whatever the people involved decide counts as sex for them,” says certified sex therapist Casey Tanner, a sexpert for LELO. “That flexibility tends to invite more experimentation and playfulness, which tends to foster deeper intimacy and bonding.”
Could this be why lesbian and bi women are more likely to orgasm during sex than their straight counterparts? Probably! “When you take penetration and ejaculation off their pedestals, pleasure gets a lot more expansive,” says Tanner. “Erogenous zones get more attention, pacing becomes more flexible, and the roles we’ve been taught we must play during sex are more easily challenged. In lesbian sex, everything you’ve been taught to think of as foreplay becomes part of the main course.”
Ultimately, there’s no right or wrong way to have lesbian sex. “Make your goal connection and pleasure rather than trying to follow a script,” says Tanner. “You don’t have to choose a role (top vs. bottom), be an athlete, or wear a strap-on to have great sapphic sex.”
But if you need a little inspiration, here are 12 lesbian sex positions to inspire your next sapphic sexperience.
The Kinky Jockey
How To Do It: Your partner gets on all fours. Find a part on their tail bone that you want to hump, lube it up and grind away.
Pros: This is good for power games. The person on top is using the person on the bottom, which can feel hot for both of you.
Cons: Doesn’t offer super direct stimulation, or mutual stimulation—at least not physically. Use this as part of a whole session to enhance power play.
Switch It Up: Prop a vibrator on their butt and let yourself come while humping them. They’ll be able to hear you and feel you, but not see you.
Make It Hotter: If you want to (consensually!) Dom it up, tug their hair and add a few smart spankings.
The Lazy 69
How To Do It: Lie side by side facing each other with your face in each other’s crotches for mutual oral.
Pros: Oral for all! Plusthis is easier than the more traditional version where one person is on top.
Cons: A literal pain in the neck. “When you're between someone's legs, it really helps if you can hold your neck in a straight position, not bent,” says sexologist Carol Queen, PhD. Sex wedges and positioning pillows can help.
Switch It Up: If it’s too much multitasking, take turns focusing on each other, while the other provides lazy licks.
Make It Hotter: Take your time and experiment. Try long slow licks up their vulva, sucking gently on their clit, making some suction over their entire vulva and gently shaking your head side to side—see if you can inspire each other.
The Lovely Lap Dance
How To Do It: Sit in a chair. Your partner straddles your legs and grinds their clit against your thigh.
Pros: This combines the power rush of being given a lap dance, with clit stim for your partner.
Cons: Wetness can vary. Your partner will have a smoother glide if you put a dollop of lube on your thigh.
Switch It Up: Get your thigh really slippery and use your hands for slide their hips back and forth over your leg.
Make It Hotter: This works well for Anora-style client/dancer role play.
Pegger's Choice
How To Do It: Your partner bends over, resting their head on a pillow and lifting their hips in the air. Kneel behind them to penetrate with a strap-on.
Pros: Deep penetration, plus it works well forBDSM play.
Cons: Can be hard to get the right angle. A sex wedge or stack of pillows under your partner’s hips can make a huge difference.
Switch It Up: Works with oral or fingering too.
Make It Hotter: If you’re doing a Dom/sub thing, make them yours with a pair of handcuffs or just a firm instruction to keep their hands behind their back.
The Tawdry Tire-Swing
How To Do It: Your partner lies back with their upper body on a stack on pillows. You sit on top of them, facing away. They reach around to finger you or ply you with a toy.
Pros: Your partner can rub you the way they rub themselves so you’ll experience first-hand (literally) how it feels when they masturbate.
Cons: No stimulation for your partner. Please make it up to them later.
Switch It Up: Try it sitting on a chair or couch for easier access.
Make It Hotter: Move so you’re straddling their hips and have your partner don a vibrating strap-on for even more stimulation.
The Classic Scissor
How To Do It: Angle your bodies so you’re lying in opposite directions or making more of a T-shape so that you can rub your genitals together. Voila, you’rescissoring.
Pros: The intimate pleasure of pressing your groin against someone else and feeling them throb against you.
Cons: It may not lead to orgasm. (Which, again is fine! Sex isn’t about goals.) But if you need a little more, slide a vibrator in between your bodies.
Switch It Up: Using a lot of lube will make it better, but awarming lube can take it next level.
Make It Hotter: Experiment with different strokes and positions. Grind, slide and hump and see what works.
The Wicked Warm-Up
How To Do It: Kneel in front of your partner. They stand, facing you, and drape one leg over your shoulder.If the heights work out, your mouth will be in perfectly situated for oral.
Pros: Easy access oral.
Cons: If you’re too good and your partner gets weak in the legs, that’s a problem. (A good problem, but still.) Position yourself next to a table or counter they can hold onto if you make them swoon.
Switch It Up: Turn it into a standing version of queening by having them hold the back of your head and move it as they please.
Make It Hotter: Let them know how much you’re into them by moaning appreciatively as you move.
The Strap-On Sizzle
How To Do It: Harness up with a strap-on and mount your partner missionary-style.
Pros: Lots of close contact and opportunities for eye gazing. Queering up the classic hetero pose is just fun too.
Cons: Not a ton of clit stim. A harness with a spot for a vibrator can give both of you a little buzz.
Switch It Up: If you don’t want to add toys, shift your body upward for theCoital Alignment Technique (CAT).Your partner grinds their clit against your pubic bone and along your shaft.
Make It Hotter: Try it with a double-headed dildo. If penetration is not your thing, a flat toy that fits between your bodies.
The Grinder
How To Do It: Your partner lies on their back. You straddle them then bend forward, angling yourselves so your genitals can rub against each other. Lean forward, holding onto their thighs for leverage.
Pros: A different take on scissoring for people who like to experiment with every angle.
Cons: Angle might not quite work. Bending over forward a bit more can make it work.
Switch It Up: Have your partner don a strap-on and turn it into full-on reversecowgirl.
Make It Hotter: Your butt will be right there in front of your partner. Make use of that with some butt play, spanking, or just let them behold your glory.
The Classic 69
How To Do It: Your partner lies on their back with their knees bent. You lie on top of them, facing the opposite direction so that your mouths and groins are lined up. Lean in so you can both lick, kiss and suck gently on each other’s clits.
Pros: It’s 69—the classic position for mutual oral.
Cons: The person on the bottom can feel kinda claustrophobic. Make sure you don’t get so turned on that you’re jamming yourself against their face. (Unless they’re into that.)
Switch It Up: Instead of staying still, try rocking back and forth a little so you’re gliding over each other’s mouths.
Make It Hotter: You can absolutely take turns instead of doing it simultaneously.
The Sultry Spoon
How To Do It: Get in spooning position behind your partner. As Big Spoon, your duties are to reach around to stroke and finger your partner.
Pros: All the intimacy and coziness of cuddling, but make it sex.
Cons: Left- or right-handedness matters. Lie so that your dominant hand is your upper hand for stroking finesse.
Switch It Up: If your partner is flexible, they can reach back for you too. If they’re not, pop a toy between your legs and your good to go.
Make It Hotter: For maximum stimulation, use a rabbit vibrator on your partner.
Ride 'Em Cowgirl
How To Do It: Your partner lies flat on their back. Straddle their hips facing them. If you want penetration, have them wear a strap-on. If not, slide against them.
Pros: Being on top feels powerful, plus you get to control the pressure, speed and angles of what you’re doing.
Cons: Some people feel awkward and performative on top. It can help to close your eyes, or conversely, look into your partner’s eye and see how into you they are. (If they’re not into you, that’s an immediate dismount.)
Switch It Up: Try a pillow under their hips for a different angle.
Make It Hotter: If grinding is your thing, lube up their thigh and hump away. They can rub themselves while they watch or you can reach over to help.
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