14 Different Sex Positions for When You’re Feeling Lazy
Shaking things up does not have to involve getting a workout in.
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Trying different sex positions often means that things are going to get complicated—probably something bendy, a little crazy, and possibly requiring intermediate aerial skills. But what if you’re feeling way too lazy for all that? What if you just want to try out some different sex positions while still being lazy? Can sex still be exciting, intimate, and genuinely hot when you’re fully committed to laziness? Yes! Yes it can.
“Many people assume that ‘trying something new’ automatically means high energy, athleticism, or elaborate choreography. That assumption alone can shut down curiosity,” says relationship counselor and fetish expert Niki Davis-Fainbloom.
Instead of hopping on a sex swing every time you want to shake things up, put the focus on each other for the kind of slow, ultra-bonding sex where you get lost in each other. “Novelty can wake up sensation without requiring acrobatics. Think curiosity, not cardio,” says Davis-Fainbloom. “Small, chill shifts in position can subtly change pressure, breath, and emotional tone while keeping the relaxed, grounded vibe intact.”
Plus, lazy sex also comes with perks. Because you’re usually lying down next to each other, there’s lots of skin-to-skin contact. “This allows you to be really close to your lover, which is an advantage for you if you’re tactile,” says sexologist Marla Renee Stewart, MA, CSE, sexpert for Lovers sexual wellness brand and retailer. “This kind of touch also helps with emotional well-being and bonding.”
But why try a different lazy sex position when spooning already exists? “Bodies habituate,” says Davis-Fainbloom. “Ideally, we settle into positions that feel good for all partners—but occasionally switching things up helps maintain an exploratory mindset. That sense of curiosity is often what keeps sex engaging and exciting over the long run.”
If the vibe is super lazy but you’re still DTF, stay in bed and try a different sex position that’s low-effort/maximum benefit. (And fear not, spooning is still there for you.)
The Side Sex Position
How To Do It: Lie next to each other in a spooning position. The receiver curls forward, bending their knees against their chest. Basically, you’re in doggy style but on your side.
Pros: It’s a mashup of doggy and spooning, so you get the cozy intimacy of spooning with the deep penetration of doggy.
Cons: Doesn’t have quite the thrusting power of regular doggy. If you want more, you’re gonna have to give up the lazy aspect and switch to full doggy.
Switch It Up: “If you struggle with clitoral stimulation during sex, you can use a small bullet or vibrator, or a vibrating cock ring during penetrative sex, to help accelerate the orgasm you desire,” says Stewart.
Make It Hotter: Want even more stimulation? Butt plugs for all! (Or butt plugs for some. You do you, re: butt plugs.)
Open Spoon
How To Do It: First, get in regular old spooning position. Then the little spoon lifts their upper leg and hooks their foot back over the big spoon’s butt. Little spoon turns a bit to face upward so their legs are spread open.
Pros: A much more orgasmic version of spooning because of the easy access for a hand or toy.
Cons: Little spoon’s bend-and-turn move can be neck pain-inducing. A pillow under the head is a quick fix.Switch It Up: Let the big spoon be in charge of the toy for bonus little-spoon laziness.
Make It Hotter: Try a double penetration fantasy without the drama of another person. The giver goes in anally while the receiver uses a dildo—or, even better, a rabbit vibrator.
The Sleepy Reachover
How To Do It: Just lie side by side and use a hand or toy on yourselves. Congratulations! You’re doing it.
Pros: A great option when you want something non-penetrative and/or you’re just extremely lazy. Plus you’ll both get exactly the kind of touch you like.
Cons: A little lacking intimacy-wise. Try turning and facing each other or just hold hands.
Switch It Up: Close your eyes and let yourselves imagine what the other person is doing. Listen for moans, notice how the bed is moving, listen to the sounds their body makes.
Make It Hotter: Reach over and use hands or toys on each other.
Saucy Spoons
How To Do It: Lie down on your sides so you’re both facing the same direction. Little spoon pushes their butt toward their partner. Little spoon holds onto big spoon’s hand for a guided reach around, showing exactly where and how they want to be touched.
Pros: All the intimacy of spooning with bespoke stimulation for the little spoon.
Cons: No eye contact. This is a good one for morning sex/morning breath.
Switch It Up: This absolutely does not have to be a penetrative position. Works for fingering and handies. Trade places and let the spooner become the spoonee.
Make It Hotter: Feel free to tweak for anal penetration.
Reach for the Heavens
How To Do It: Assume ye olde missionary position, but the giver puts their legs outside of the partner’s instead of between them. The receiver presses their legs tightly together. The receiver hangs onto the headboard and rolls their hips to press their clit closely along their partner’s penis or strap-on.
Pros: It’s the smallest tweak ever, but missionary feels tighter and better for both of you if the receiver presses their legs tightly together and angles themselves to get more direct contact along the shaft of their partner’s penis or strap-on.
Cons: No headboard? The receiver can hang onto their partner’s shoulders for leverage.
Switch It Up: The person on the top takes control with thrusts while the person on the bottom rocks their pelvis, so you’ll both get what you need.
Make It Hotter: A dollop of arousal oil will make it feel even more intense.
The Dirty Dangle
How To Do It: Start in missionary with the receiver on their back and the giver on top between their legs. When the receiver is close to orgasm, they inch toward the edge of the bed so their head, shoulders, and arms hang backward over the side.
Pros: The powers of a head rush can be an orgasm enhancer.
Cons: A head rush can feel more faint-y than sexy. If is feels bad, stop immediately.
Switch It Up: Try a version with the giver standing and the receiver lying back on a table, head over the edge.
Make It Hotter: Try it with a vibrating penis ring.
The Figure Eight
How To Do It: Switch up missionary with pillows and different thrusting rhythms. The receiver lies on the bed face-up with a couple of pillows propping up their butt, knees half bent, and legs splayed wide. The giver enters from the top like in missionary, but instead of regular thrusting, they move and grind their hips with slow figure-eight motions.
Pros: If you have a vulva and missionary doesn’t quite do it for you, the slow-build and focused clit-attention can be more orgasmic.
Cons: Even with the slow grind, this position still might not be orgasmic for people with vulvas. Slide a toy or hand between your bodies and see how that works.
Switch It Up: Try it with a wearable couples toy for extra vibrations.
Make It Hotter: Make it literally hotter, temperature-wise, with a warming lube.
The Spider Web
How To Do It: Lie on your sides facing each other. Scissor your legs so you are super close. Rather than typical in-and-out thrusting, go with grinding, circular motions.
Pros: Lots of close body contact, eye contact, and opportunities for making out.
Cons: There are no cons. This is the perfect lazy position. No further questions, please.
Switch It Up: Take it as slow as you can possibly stand and you’ll feel every throb between you.
Make It Hotter: Into aural sex? Tell each other exactly what you’re feeling, say smutty/lovey things or share a fantasy as you move.
The Dragon
How To Do It: The receiver lies on their stomach with their arms raised above their head. With a pillow or two placed under their pubic bone, they spread their legs slightly. The penetrating partner lays their body over the partner’s.
Pros: The pillow allows for a better angle of penetration. Plus, this position works anally and vaginally.
Cons: No genital stim for the person on the bottom. Either of you can slide a lubey hand under them for grinding against.
Switch It Up: Try it with the receiver in charge of the motion, moving their hips in slow circles.
Make It Hotter: If the person on the bottom has a vulva, a vibe pressed between the pillow and their body will make a huge difference.
Side Wind
How To Do It: The receiver lies on their side and raises their top leg, keeping their bottom leg straight on the bed. The penetrating partner straddles the receiver's bottom thigh and hugs their raised leg as the receiver rests their calf on their partner’s shoulder.
Pros: Extremely deep penetration, lots of eye contact, and the person on top has hands free for themselves or their partner.
Cons: Having to hold their head up semi-ruins the whole laziness of this for the bottom person. A stack of pillows to rest their head on allows for maximum laziness.
Switch It Up: This works well for two vulvas. Rub and grind your lubed-up vulvas together, adding a double-headed dildo if you’re feeling it.
Make It Hotter: The giver winds and whirls their hips as they thrust for maximum pleasure.
Tight Sqeeze
How To Do It: The receiver lies down on their stomach, keeping their legs straight and spreading them slightly. They rest their arms by their sides or stretch out in front of them. The penetrating partner stretches their body over their partner with their legs outside the receiver’s. Then the receiver closes their legs and crosses them at the ankles.
Pros: Full body contact. Excellent for larger penises or strap-ons.
Cons: Possibility of the person on the bottom getting mushed. The person on top can rest on their elbows so they don’t place all their weight on their partner.
Switch It Up: To make up for the lack of eye contact, the person on top can nuzzle their partner’s neck, shoulders, and earlobes.
Make It Hotter: The bottom person can create a tighter fit by pressing their thighs tightly together.
Bootyfull View
How To Do It: The penetrating partner sits up on the bed so their legs are extended horizontally toward the foot of the bed. The receiver straddles the penetrator facing their feet, then lowers themselves onto their penis or strap-on. The receiver can then extend their legs back so they’re almost behind the penetrator, relaxing their torso chest-down onto the bed. The receiver slides up and down, using the penetrator’s feet for leverage.
Pros: The receiver gets precision control over speed, depth, and intensity of stimulation. The penetrating partner gets an excellent view.
Cons: Not great for receivers who don’t love giving their partner a front row seat to their butt hole. If you’re into the feel but not the visual, this is a lights-out position.
Switch It Up: The giver leans back on their hands and the receiver lifts their body higher so that the giver is thrusting upward.
Make It Hotter: Want to experiment with Dom/sub power dynamics? The giver tells the receiver how to move. If it’s not satisfactory? A spanking. (If you’re going to explore BDSM, study up beforehand and talk about expectations and boundaries.)
Now and Zen
How To Do It: Roll onto your sides, face-to-face, then intertwine your legs and press your chests against one another.
Pros: Lots of eye gazing and skin-to-skin contact, so it’s very intimate.
Cons: Not great for hard and fast thrusting. If you’re down for something more athletic, use this to take a quiet moment in the middle of something crazier. Slowly build yourself back up to an even more incredible climax.
Switch It Up: Experiment with one person thrusting, or the other, or both together.
Make It Hotter: Outfit yourselves with a pair of remote-control vibes and watch as you cruelly torture each other with stop-and-start vibrations.
The Linguini
How To Do It: The receiver lies on their side, putting a pillow under their head for extra support. The penetrating partner kneels directly behind the receiver’s butt, leaning slightly over their body. They push one of their knees between the receiver’s legs, positioning their body to penetrate. They place one hand on the receiver’s back to help support themselves. The receiver puts their hand over the partner’s hand and guides it wherever they need it.
Pros: Deep penetration and whole new angle, plus everyone has a free hand or two to tend to the receiver.
Cons: It’s not super lazy for the person penetrating.
Switch It Up: Flip the whole thing to the other side and see which one feels better.
Make It Hotter: For even deeper penetration (and an impromptu flexibility challenge), the receiver lifts a leg over their partner’s shoulder as in the illustration.
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