Don’t get it backwards (pun intended): Doggy style is a classic, and for good reason. Why? Well, for starters, sex in doggy allows for targeted internal hot-spot stimulation (otherwise known as the G-spot). If you are, or your partner is, a fan of deep penetration, it’s a great bet for orgasm. It's easy to get into from other positions, it allows for the seamless integration of sex toys, and it's a switch-up from classic missionary into something equally-classic but just a little more intense. For those doing the penetrating, you get an unrestricted view of your partner's backside (hot!) and a tighter feel. And for both parties, it can feel kinda primal, which can be a major turn-on for some.
But just because doggy is a timeless fave, that doesn’t mean you can’t mix it up a little. If it's a staple in your routine that you can't imagine sex without, you don’t even have to stray too far to make it better (though if you want to, you can find tips for that on our master sex positions page—yw!). You can just change locations, add some accessories, or switch up the position just enough to make it feel new and even more exciting than usual. The beauty of doggy is that it's versatile, you just have to figure out what works for you both.
So, to help you finesse your technique, we asked one of Lovehoney’s sex experts, Sammi Cole, how to make doggy style sex feel incred. (We're pleased to report: It's easier than you think!) Here’s what she had to say.
1. Take the "Stairway to Heaven"
No, not the Zeppelin song. This particular "Stairway to Heaven" is a simple-but-effective variation on doggy that can be done on the stairs in your home. If you're the receiving partner, you basically kneel on a lower step with your arms resting on an upper step. Your partner—the penetrating partner—then kneels on the same step as you with their legs outside of yours as they penetrate. Bring a blanket or something soft to lean on so neither of you gets carpet burn.
2. Use a Mirror
Due to the nature of doggy style sex, it’s not easy to make eye contact with your partner (unless you’re a contortionist). Positioning yourselves in front of a mirror allows for greater intimacy, as well as a great view for both parties.
3. Comfort Is Key
Some receiving partners can find doggy style sex a little uncomfortable, because the depth of penetration can sometimes mean pressure on the cervix (depending on the length of the penis or strap-on, the receiver's anatomy, etc.). This can be pleasurable for some, but if that's not you, an easy variation that can help prevent this is for the receiving partner to use a headboard, the side of the bed, or a chair to press their arms against. This then pushes their torso into a more upright position.
You could also try a penetration buffer to help control the depth that you or your partner can reach—whether during doggy or any position. These buffer rings are also great for people who have endometriosis and may find deep penetration painful.
4. Turn It Into a Quickie
Doggy style is a great position for impromptu quickie sex. Provided you’re somewhere secluded where no one is likely to stumble upon you, a standing variation of doggy can be a fun way to move play out of the bedroom. Remember: Although the thrill of being caught can be very arousing, it’s important not to expose other people to seeing something that they haven’t consented to seeing. So...be responsible and don't do it anywhere you can get caught!
5. Add a Sex Toy
Despite all its benefits, doggy style isn’t the greatest sex position for people who need clitoral stimulation to climax. But if the receiver has a vulva, doggy style does allow for either partner to reach the clitoris easily with a hand or a vibrator. Try combining doggy style with a small-but-powerful sex toy, like a bullet vibrator that can provide clitoral stimulation while also not getting in the way of the deep penetration. To add to the fun, you could try a remote controlled vibrator, giving the penetrating partner power over the receiver's pleasure. You can stimulate the clitoris while resting on one hand rather than two as the penetrator thrusts from behind, or they can hold the toy against the receiver for a more intimate experience.
6. Switch up the Legs
Having the receiver bring their legs closer together during doggy style sex can both make them feel tighter to the penetrating partner, and enhance the feeling of the penetrator's thrusts to the receiver. If you're receiving, try moving your legs as close together as you can, and, if your bodies allow for it, you can even cross one knee over the other. Have the penetrating partner kneel with their legs outside yours.
7. Drop It Low
This is like regular doggy, except the receiver stretches their legs out so both partners are lying down, with the penetrating partner on top. Some people enjoy this take on the classic pose because it allows you to kiss, hug, and feel more intimate—and it can help to slow things down if traditional doggy gets a little intense.
To improve the sensations and to make penetration easier, try slipping a pillow (or even a specially-designed sex pillow) underneath the receiver's hips.
8. Lube Up
A good water-based lubricant can enhance any sex position, particularly one like doggy where there can be a lot of friction. Find one that's super easy to dispense with a handy pump. You can also use silicone lube, just make sure you're not using it with silicone sex toys, as that can make toys wear over time.
There's tons you can do to make doggy feel hotter and more exciting, but ultimately, as with any Sex Thing, aim to make it feel as comfortable as possible. Being relaxed during sex can lead to more pleasure and better orgasms. If you're not comfortable, the position won't feel as good as it can, and trust us when we say it can feel incredible. Once you figure out what works for you, a world of pleasure and possibility awaits!
