5 Sex Positions to Keep Sparks Flying Between You and Your Long-Term Love

If sex with your partner feels great, but you’ve gotten to the point in your relationship where you kind of already know what’s going to happen before you start stripping down, it might be time to switch things up. And lucky for you, we’re pretty much experts at sex positions that can help keep the “spark” alive—aka, the chemistry between you and your long-term lover. But before we dive into it, know this: Everyone can get into monotonous sexual routines, especially if you and your partner have figured out a fast route to reliable orgasms. This is totally normal! But sexual desire thrives on creativity and growth, so if you want sex to stay enjoyable for years and years to come, change is (say it with me!) good.

“Our sexuality is not static—it's always in flux, changing as we transition through life,” says clinical sexologist and sex coach Georgia Rose. You can keep doing any and all hacks, tips, and positions that help lead to those easy-access orgasms, but we highly encourage figuring out new things that can do it for you too. One great place to start? Changing the order of your sexual track list.

Rose says she encourages couples to unsubscribe from the usual order of “kissing, then penetrative sex, then orgasm” routine. Instead, she suggests re-writing the script. Maybe it’s oral sex before kissing. Maybe you build tension by not kissing at all. Maybe you take penetration off the menu but explore erogenous touch. There’s no limit to what you can do when everyone’s consenting, couples keep an open mind and have ongoing conversations about the evolution of their desires.

“Keeping things hot is an active process,” says board-certified sexologist and certified sex educator Tiffany Chan, EdD. “Many couples fall into patterns of routine because they assume they already know everything about their partner’s desires. But attraction evolves! Having regular, judgment-free conversations about fantasies, turn-ons, and even what isn’t working ensures both partners feel heard and valued.”

If you don’t know where to begin, try experimenting with power dynamics and fantasy. “A lot of couples assume role-play or power dynamics are only for the kink world, but even subtle shifts—like letting one partner take the lead, exploring teasing and denial, or using light Dominance/submission elements—can reignite attraction,” says Chan.

And don’t worry if you’re not getting instantly wet, or hard, or swollen at the mere sight of each other. According to Rose, you can’t always rely on spontaneous desire in a long-term sexual relationship. Instead, look for ways to create that anticipation and desire. “Infuse your relationship with low pressure yet frequent amounts of sexually charged moments to keep it zesty. Think: spontaneous make outs, flirty texts, showers together, etc. This prevents long-term relationships from feeling like a friendship/roommates situation.” Figuring out your desire style is a great place to start.

Whether you're looking to add a little thrill, deepen intimacy, or just find new ways to make your partner feel amazing, here are a few positions to get you started.