On Wednesday’s episode of Call Her Daddy, Khloé Kardashian—the first member of the famous family to grace the pod—shared that she has been single for over three years. Oh, and she’s loving it. In fact, while the star told host Alex Cooper that she “would love to get married again” someday, it turns out the single life suits her so well that she might just wind up flying solo for another decade.

“I’m really happy. I don’t feel lonely, I don’t feel any of that stuff,” Khloé said. “I feel great, which is actually, like, concerning, because I feel like I could go this way for, like, 10 more years,” she added, laughing.

While you simply love to see Khloé single and thriving, her “concern” raises an interesting question, particularly for fellow members of team Happily Single: If you’re happy being single, is there really anything wrong with staying that way for the next 10 years? Or even the next…forever?

And yet, as a fellow long-term happily single woman, let me just say that I related immediately and I related hard.

For women who have been societally conditioned from a young age to pursue romantic relationships as an important—if not the most important—capstone of a “successful” life (so, pretty much all of us), I think there is often both a lot of pride and a lot of complexity that comes with finally escaping this mentality, shirking the shame that still follows single womanhood, and really, truly getting to a place where we know we are completely (not even performatively!) happy on our own.

Having finally reached this seemingly mythical level of security in singlehood myself after many a younger and more vulnerable year fraught with anxiety and shame over “never finding the one” or being “the sad single friend,” I can confirm that actually being happily single is as wonderful and peaceful as Khloé makes it sound! That doesn’t mean, however, that happily single people don’t or can’t still want a relationship, whether right now or at some point in the future. And therein lies the (potential) problem.

As Khloé pointed out, once you find real happiness and security in singlehood, you start to realize just how genuinely great being single actually is. (Yes, we were all lied to!) So great, even, that it can start to seem like a tough thing to give up. This obviously isn’t a problem if you do decide you want to stay single for the long run. There are plenty of people who never choose to settle down in a long-term romantic partnership and still lead perfectly rich and fulfilling lives.

But if, like Khloé (and, um, possibly me), you do want or remain open to a relationship in the future, it can be easy to wonder whether you’ve gotten a little too comfortable on your own. What if I get so content in my singlehood I fully lose the will to ever go on another date? Is it possible to be too happily single? If I were Carrie Bradshaw, I probably wouldn’t be able to help but wonder, Am I settling for myself?

These are all semi-real if slightly tongue-in-cheek questions I’ve found myself considering in the past year or so as I’ve contemplated the present and future of my single status. I would like to make it clear that, like Khloé, I’m ultimately coming to all of this from a place of relative unseriousness. That said, I do think that for modern women in whatever you want to call this state of self-actualized singlehood that I fear may be impossible to refer to in a non-annoying way, it can sometimes be tricky to navigate the line between independence and avoidance—between happily single and settling for ourselves. Particularly in an age of growing dating pessimism and burnout, I suspect it may be all too easy for happily single women like me to accidentally opt out of our own dating lives when we thought we were just taking a well-deserved break.

Still, I’d rather settle for myself than anyone else.