Ella Snyder
Contributor
Ella Snyder is a model, photographer, and writer living in New York City. When she’s not on set, she’s in a method acting class or drafting a diaristic entry for her Substack, Esoteric It Girl.
Everyone Has a Roster Now and I Kind of Hate It
I tried dating this way, too, but I quickly learned that finding love like this just wasn’t for me.
I Dated a “Therapist” Who Made Me Feel Anything But Safe
On paper, so much about him seemed promising. But in reality, this guy was just like every other loser on the apps—if not worse.
What It Took to Finally Find Pleasure After Gender-Affirming Surgery
Exploring sexual desire in a body that feels totally new is not for the faint hearted.
I Thought I Was Asexual—Turns Out, I Just Wasn’t Into the Sh-tty Men I Was Dating
The sex I was having with selfish men was so unpleasant, it made me wonder if I didn’t want sex at all. Here’s how I learned the difference.
Ethel Cain Has Seen Your Reddit Posts
The singer-songwriter behind the recent album Willoughby Tucker, I’ll Always Love You knows she’s a lightning-rod topic online. She owns her mistakes, she says, but also has questions.
My First Trans-for-Trans Relationship Was Life-Affirming—Until It Wasn’t Enough
I thought our shared identities could sustain us both. What I learned became much more important.
When You’re Trans and Dating, Coming Out Never Ends
After I very publicly disclosed my gender identity on the apps, I thought I was done explaining myself. But here we are.
My Anxiety Almost Kept Me From Dating (and Leaving My House) Ever Again
As a trans person in America today, just existing is exhausting. But I won’t let it get in the way of my search for love.