Ella Snyder
Contributor
Ella Snyder is a model, photographer, and writer living in New York City. When she’s not on set, she’s in a method acting class or drafting a diaristic entry for her Substack, Esoteric It Girl.
I Thought I Was Asexual—Turns Out, I Just Wasn’t Into the Sh-tty Men I Was Dating
The sex I was having with selfish men was so unpleasant, it made me wonder if I didn’t want sex at all. Here’s how I learned the difference.
What It Took to Finally Find Pleasure After Gender-Affirming Surgery
Exploring sexual desire in a body that feels totally new is not for the faint hearted.
Ethel Cain Has Seen Your Reddit Posts
The singer-songwriter behind the recent album Willoughby Tucker, I’ll Always Love You knows she’s a lightning-rod topic online. She owns her mistakes, she says, but also has questions.
My First Trans-for-Trans Relationship Was Life-Affirming—Until It Wasn’t Enough
I thought our shared identities could sustain us both. What I learned became much more important.
When You’re Trans and Dating, Coming Out Never Ends
After I very publicly disclosed my gender identity on the apps, I thought I was done explaining myself. But here we are.
My Anxiety Almost Kept Me From Dating (and Leaving My House) Ever Again
As a trans person in America today, just existing is exhausting. But I won’t let it get in the way of my search for love.