Zachary Zane
Zachary Zane is the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto and co-author of Men’s Health: Best. Sex. Ever. He is currently Grindr’s sex and relationship expert, and his work has been featured in the New York Times, Rolling Stone, Washington Post, Cosmo, GQ, Playboy, and more.
What I Learned From Giving a Secret Hand Job at the Frat Bro Christmas Party
I thought I hated fraternities…until a sneaky holiday hookup opened my queer little eyes.
Bisexual Visibility Is Good, but Bi Community Is Better
This Bisexual Awareness Week, I want us to be more than just visible.
Cohabitating When You’re Polyamorous Doesn’t Work for Every Dynamic
But when it does, it can be seriously validating and full of joy. Here's how five ethically non-monogamous people do it.
19 Polyamory Books and Resources to Help Inform Your ENM Journey
Reliable, expert-backed information on ethical non-monogamy is more accessible than ever—here’s what’s worth your time.
Ever Wonder What Goes Down at a Swingers Resort?
All the (very sexy) details you need to know, from someone who’s been going for half a decade.
After a Decade of Being Poly, I'm Temporarily Going Monogamous—But My GF Isn't
She didn't think it seemed fair. Let me explain why it actually makes (a lot) of sense.
I Sucked the Biggest Dick in the Dick-Sucking Train at Hedonism’s Bi Week Takeover
Call me the little c*ck-sucker who could.
Swinger Stereotypes Made Me Think I Could Never Actually *Be* One
Now, hotel room orgies with other bisexuals double my age make me feel like I belong.
Watching My Girlfriend Have Sex With Other People Made Me Rethink Everything I Knew About Jealousy
The idea that poly folks can’t or shouldn’t get jealous about their partner having other partners is, quite frankly, unrealistic.
My Non-Monogamous Girlfriend Still Has Sex With Her Exes
And yeah, I want to be with her forever.
Let This Couple Prove that Polyamory Actually Can Last Long-Term
Ed and Diana have been together—and poly—since long before the rise of ethical non-monogamy in the cultural zeitgeist. Here’s how they’ve made it work.
Polyamory Doesn't Have to Be This Complicated
With increased poly visibility comes a deluge of misunderstanding on what polyamory should actually feel like. Allow me to course correct.
8 Things That Will Probably Happen During the Holidays If You’re Polyamorous
Including: Apologizing profusely when your parents confuse your partners’ names.
6 Surprising Things I’ve Learned About Non-Monogamy From Dating Porn Stars
It’s about more than just sex—I’ll explain.
Venus Cuffs Is Tired of Sex-Positive Spaces. She Wants Actual Sex Spaces.
Allow the former Dominatrix turned nightlife producer extraordinaire to explain the difference.
If I Want to Have Tons of Unprotected Sex, I Can’t Skip the STI Conversation
In the latest Navigating Non-Monogamy column, Zachary Zane gives you a script for talking about safer sex with your partner.
New to Polyamory, I Was Having Sex With Everyone *Except* My Primary Partner
“Navigating Non-Monogamy” columnist Zachary Zane on how too many options isn’t always a good thing.
De-Escalating My Relationship Blew Up in My Face
In his third installment of “Navigating Non-Monogamy,” Zachary Zane explains why de-escalating (or slowing down) his relationship turned out to be a recipe for resentment.
I Didn’t Have “Commitment Issues”—I Had a Valid Sexual Identity I Didn’t Know Existed
About the Time I Unintentionally (but Maybe Not *Accidentally*) Cheated on My Boyfriend
“Navigating Non-Monogamy” columnist Zachary Zane explains how unclear boundaries in his open relationship paved the way for him to maybe, sort of, kinda cheat on his boyfriend—despite *technically* not lying. It’s complicated.
I Dove Into Polyamory for All the Wrong Reasons
Introducing “Navigating Non-Monogamy,” a new column in which Zachary Zane walks you through all the fumbles he’s made on his polyamory journey so that you, dear reader, don’t have to.
I Pretended My Grindr Hookup Was a Close Friend and F*cked Him in My Parents’ Hot Tub
Hometown horniness: 1. Parental cockblocking: 0.
Why Don't Millennials and Gen Zers Identify as Swingers?
The label, which you might associate with the key parties of the '70s, is fading out of style with younger generations, and for good reason.