4 Adventurous Sex Positions to Spice Up Your Sex Routine
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When you think you’ve tried every sexual thing there is to try—from sex toys to fantasies to positions galore—it’s officially time to pivot. Meet: Bucket list sex positions that feel adventurous, kinky, voyeuristic, flexible, and everything you need to add a little bit of spice to your sex life.
You don’t have to go super hard when you’re having adventurous sex, especially if you’re not particularly flexible or into experimentation. But just the fact that you and your partner are trying something new together has some serious bonding power. The important bit is that you’re experimenting together. “Regardless of what flavor of sexual adventures you both enjoy, it’s important that anything you try—including new positions—be explored in the spirit of pleasure, fun, and connection,” says founder and director of ethical porn site Sssh.com, Angie Rowntree. “Don’t feel pressure to reinvent the wheel or throw your back out.”
And if you think you’re too (*insert excuse here*) for adventurous sex positions, fear not—everything’s adjustable. “It’s a myth to think that ‘adventurous sex’ means ‘sex only for athletic bodies,’” says Rowntree. “Everyone deserves to enjoy a thriving and exciting intimate life on their terms.” If something isn’t working for you, modify it as you please and do what feels good to both of you. Leave the other noise behind.”
And if something goes awry—a fart here, a squirt there, a random sneeze in the middle of oral—just go with it. It’s part of the experience! “A sense of humor goes a long way. Even professional adult performers on set get leg cramps or giggle when their bodies make certain sounds. Laugh together, embrace the moment, and have fun!” says Rowntree
When you’re ready—and you’ve discussed boundaries and consent with your partner, which is essential whenever you’re trying anything new—here are a few good places to start.
The Bee
For receivers who like grinding and targeted vaginal stimulation, the bee can create some serious buzz, says Rowntree. The penetrating partner swivels their hips in a circular grind and the receiver tilts their hips to deepen the thrusts, amplifying pleasure for both, she says. “While it does take some finessing, you can use pillows or wedges for added support.” If you want a more literal buzz, add a strong buzzy vibrator.
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The Twister
Put a literal twist into it by having the receiver lie on their side for a totally new angle. “Feel free to use a pillow or Liberator wedge to support your upper body, as your limbs twist together in all kinds of fun, friction-friendly ways. If you need to tone it down or need a starting point to get here, try beginning or ending with a basic but super-intimate side-by-side position,” says Rowntree.
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The Life Raft
The life raft is for those who love rear-entry positions and have always wanted to do it in the pool without awkward chafing underwater, says Rowntree. Grab a raft or a floatie that's buoyant enough to keep the receiver out of the water and head to the shallow end. The receiver lies over the raft on their stomach keeping their hips above water, while the penetrating partner stands behind, holding on to the receiver's legs. “Not only is this position super fun, it’s also gentler since the water is basically supporting your weight. Don’t forget the lube and the SPF with this one.” Use silicone lube that won’t rinse off in water for an extra layer of chafe guard.
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Stand and Carry
Take advantage of your upper body strength with the stand and carry. The penetrating partner stands and lifts the receiver, who wraps their arms and legs around the standing partner.
“This primal powerhouse move requires strength on both your parts,” says Rowntree. Don't feel like you have to be in this position for the duration of your sex sesh. “Most people can't hold a true stand and carry position for longer than a few moments. It’s a hot position for passionate kissing and feeling 'taken' by your partner, though, so if you’ve got the upper body strength, it’s worth a go—even for two minutes!”
If you want a similar feeling without quite as much athletic output, you can lean against a wall or invest in a sex swing that will do the hoisting for you.
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