If you’re just finding out about the Kivin method, you’re not alone. For an oral sex hack that’s apparently ground-breaking, it’s still somewhat underground. But while this technique may be lesser known, there’s some pretty serious hype surrounding the Kivin method among women and people with vulvas, with many a glowing endorsement claiming this unique approach to cunnilingus can deliver orgasms in record time.
“The Kivin method is an exciting way of performing oral sex,” says sex and relationship expert Annabelle Knight, author of The Matchmaker’s Match. “There have been some pretty bold claims about its effectiveness,” Knight adds, citing reports of Kivin-induced orgasms in under three minutes.
So what is the Kivin method, how do you do it, and does this supposedly mind-blowing oral sex hack actually live up to the hype? We asked sex experts for all the info on this trending technique.
What Is the Kivin Method?
The Kivin method is basically sidewise oral sex for vulvas. “It is another approach to cunnilingus, involving the giver lying perpendicular to the receiver, allowing oral stimulation to the clitoris and vulva from a side angle,” explains board-certified sex educator Linnea Marie, a sexpert at BedBible.com. In this position, the giver works their tongue side-to-side across the vulva/clitoris, rather than up and down.
How Does the Kivin Method Work?
“Rather than coming in from between the legs, the giver comes in from the side,” Knight explains. “They need to place the index finger and thumb either side of the clitoris to raise and steady it, and then instead of licking up and down the vulva, you are going from side to side, straight across the clitoral hood. This helps to stimulate a wider area of the clitoris than conventional methods usually used.”
The two bodies should form a T-shape, rather than being aligned in one straight line, explains sex therapist Laurie Mintz, Ph.D. “The giver approaches the receiver’s genitals from one side or the other. The receiver can then drape [one or both] legs over the giver’s neck or back, or alternatively, place their legs up with their knees against their chest.”
Kivin Method Positioning
As Knight points out, this may present challenges in positioning. “It is best to approach over the thighs rather than underneath. With the left hand, the giver also needs to place the middle finger on the perineum (the area between the vagina and the anus) to feel for muscle contractions. As you feel your partner nearing orgasm, begin to concentrate on the head of the clitoris with the tongue.”
Essentially, the idea is that you’re trying three new variations: side-on approach, hand position, and licking across the the clitoral hood.
What Does the Kivin Method Feel Like?
The Kivin method offers a unique kind of stimulation to the receiver, which can be both exciting and pleasurable.
Sex therapist Laurie Mintz, Ph.D. says one of the reasons this position can be over-the-top satisyfing is because a lot of clitoris-owners report preferring clit stimulation on one side or the other, versus the top or bottom of the clit. “Many who have experienced Kivin say the angle of the giver’s body increases the sensations and results in more powerful orgasms,” says Mintz. “This is likely because the clitoris gets stimulated in a side-to-side rather than up-and-down motion.”
But the Kivin Method Is Not a Guaranteed Orgasm
“I am naturally wary of any new sex technique promising three-minute orgasms,” says Knight. “But what is exciting about Kivin is that it encourages experimentation and stimulation of alternative erogenous zone.”
Like any other sex act or position out there, the Kivin method isn’t for everyone. While it may result in faster, more intense, and/or more frequent orgasm for some folks, others may not find it as effective. Remember: Orgasm shouldn’t be the end goal of sex. The pressure to have an orgasm or make someone else orgasm (especially within three minutes) can lead to performance anxiety and may actually hinder your enjoyment.
Everyone has their own unique preferences when it comes to sex and everyone responds differently to various kinds of sex and stimulation. Some people may feel the Kivin method lives up to the hype, while others might find it just doesn’t do it for them.
“My advice is to give it a try,” says Knight. “It may well work for you—but if it doesn’t, it can still take you to exciting new places.”
Real People Describe What the Kivin Method Feels Like
Don’t just take our word for it: listen to the people of Reddit! Here, Kivin enthusiasts open up about why they love the Kivin method.
1.“Everyone’s different, but, as a woman, I can totally attest to this method! Up and down is actually sometimes a little painful for me as I’m very sensitive, but side to side feels amazing!” [via]
2.“In the usual position of being between a woman’s legs, the side to side tongue motion is actually great for people who have trouble performing oral for a long time. The up and down licking motion is very straining on the muscles in your face and neck, but side to side is much easier to maintain for extended periods of time. And some women like it more!” [via]
3. “Doing it from the side makes so much sense, for both parties. For me, it feels way better when my husband turns his head sideways instead of going up and down. It more accurately mimics the movement I would make with my hand if I were masturbating. And I imagine it’s a lot easier on his tongue.” [via]
4. “One partner did this, and I basically feel in love with the idiot.” [via]
5. “I had good communication with my partner when I was learning to do it, and quickly figured out that side to side works better. Now it feels much more natural and I can keep it going for much longer than up and down motion, only switching to add some variety and rest.” [via]
