- During an Oct. 16 appearance on Hallie Batchelder’s Extra Dirty podcast, Rachael Kirkconnell revealed a shocking detail about her sex life.
- She and her ex, Matt James, first fell in love on The Bachelor season 25, but her past racist behavior was revealed, and Matt ended the relationship during the “After the Final Rose” special.
- They gave their relationship another shot in April 2021 and were together for nearly three years before Matt called things off with a prayer posted to his Instagram Stories in January 2025.
It’s been nine months since Rachael Kirkconnell’s public split with Matt James, but that doesn’t mean she’s done spilling the details on their relationship. During an appearance on Hallie Batchelder’s Extra Dirty podcast, the Bachelor Nation alum dropped a bombshell about her sex life and her “lover girl” tendencies.
“I feel like a virgin again,” Rachael admitted to Hallie during the pod’s October 16 episode. And despite her three-year-long romance with Matt, she surprised fans when she revealed, “I haven’t had sex way longer than you think. It’s been years.”
She continued, “I think that’s why I’m a lover girl, because I feel like how we felt when we were, like, in high school. I’m not going to say everyone felt like this, but you know how everyone just makes losing your virginity such a big deal? And it’s like, ‘Lose it to someone special?’ That’s how I feel. I’m like, ‘I can’t just give it up to just anyone.’ I want it to be special.”
She doubled down on the sentiment when she revealed that she might identify as demisexual, which is when you don’t feel attracted to someone unless you’ve formed an emotional connection with them.
“I can say, ‘Wow, that person is really attractive.’ I obviously find them really attractive, I think they’re really hot, but I don’t care after that, cause they could still be like a terrible person or have the worst personality ever, and that would make me not want to sleep with them because that totally turns me off,” she explained. “I guess their attraction can only get so far for me. Maybe that’s my problem, I don’t know.”
She continued, “I don’t think I could go home with anyone. I have to feel safe and comfortable with them and be emotionally invested at least in a way that I could see us dating or I at least have a crush on them… It’s not a physical attraction, I guess.”
Since she and Matt called it quits earlier this year, Rachael dished that she’s been “chronically single” and hasn’t “been on a single date.” She’s ditched the dating apps, too, but admitted that she isn’t “judging” anyone who goes down that path.
